DadWithHope

Close Infidelity

Treatments

Couples Counseling Not Working

Didn't work because selfish STBX wife refused to give up her overgrown child boyfriend in order to work on what our MC told us was a "fundamentally sound" relationship otherwise. She claims she got some good information, I think it was a waste of money because she went into it with a defeatist attitude.

Divorce Working / Worked

I love her with all my heart, but I simply cannot afford to be treated like this. I have four daughters to think about and they have to see me be strong for them.

Forgiveness Not Working

My wife sees my forgiveness as a weakness. She told me to stop letting her walk all over me, so I filed for divorce. She was actually surprised when I did so. ???

Close Breakups & Divorce

Divorced finalized recently. This was not what I wanted for my life nor for my family, but in order to protect myself, my girls and to teach them what's right, I chose to end my marriage.

Treatments

Couples Counseling Not Working

Great counselor + quitter wife + idiotic advice from a persistent, selfish, overgrown child OM = EPIC FAIL

Forgiveness Not Working

I would have no problem forgiving my wife, I've done it so many times. But, she says I shouldn't. I told her that is MY decision, not hers. You can only forgive someone so many times. Maybe someday but it ain't gonna be this day.

Leave Working / Worked

She chose him over me AND my girls, despite what she says, and I chose to show them a GOOD example instead of selfishness. Got the F out of dodge and got a fresh start.

Love Somewhat Helpful

I still love my wife as much as I ever did. Unfortunately, that isn't enough and although she tells me she loves me, she doesn't put out the effort to show it. How can you love someone and put them through this kind of hell?

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

I am going to individual counseling and it seems to be helping a bit. First counselor just kind of listened and reassured but new counselor is great!!! Learned that self-awareness is one thing I was lacking.

Reading Somewhat Helpful

There are some good books out there but most of them just don't speak to me. They seem to be intent on making the cheater feel good about themselves or they are written for women.

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

My family is always there for me. I think my wife resents it in some way because they care so much.

Support Groups Working / Worked

This site has been a God send for me.

Talking Not Working

Trying to talk to someone who can't be honest about anything is a waste of time. Talking to others - especially here - helps, even when the OM lurks on here looking for something to use to get sympathy he doesn't deserve.

Time Working / Worked

What else do I have besides my self-esteem, my girls, my family and friends, but time?