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SarahZee 
my boyfriend and i have been fighting a lot lately and he told me last night that i was stressing out and he wants to take a break.
i know how breaks work. my exes said they wanted a break and then a week later they broke up with me. it starts out that they need space. then they realize how much of a problem i actually am and the break turns into a break up.
he still says he loves me. but it is possible to love someone and never want to be with them ever again. he wasn't even making any sense. he was mad at me because i wouldn't come up to his house because my knee hurt, so then i told him to pick me up and then he did. and then he said i was too dependent on him and i'm so confused. like he was mad because i wouldn't come up and then he doesn't want to see me because i did come up. it makes no sense and i tried to tell him and he said i was just making him want to be with me less.
my eyes are all red from crying so much. i've only seen him for like 30 minutes in the past 3 days. so i guess he prefers it like that.
and the absolute worst thing about this whole thing is that he is such a good guy. he's the only guy who has treated me right. and we are really serious too so this is like awful for me. i'm wearing his jacket right now. i have his jacket some of his shirts, the ring he bought me, letters from him, a hat i'm making him, clothes he bought me, pictures of us everywhere. hell, his picture is my background on my laptop. i'm watching music videos on vh1 and they play songs that he learned to play on guitar for me. and it's not like i can get rid of all this stuff because we aren't technically broken up, we are just taking a break. it was so unexpected. i hate how i have so many problems and how he can't even handle it. we've been together for over a year and a half and he was my best friend for a year before that. i don't even know how to not love him because i have for so long and this year and a half was the only time that i felt like maybe someone would want to be with me forever, despite all my issues. but i guess i was wrong.
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I'm sorry you're having to go through this! Remember though a break doesn't always mean a breakup. It can mean that. But a lot of time guys just need some space to clear their heads. Unlike girls they can't focus on a lot of things a once. Sometimes they have to step back from their normal routine to understand what's going on in their lives and what they want. My husband has stepped back many a times. It used to scare me at first. I thought he was angry at me or that he didn't want to be with me, but the truth is he was just refocusing on his life goals and wants ect... Remember the best thing really is to give him his space. You don't want to interrupt him while he's trying to figure everything out because it will probably just distract and frustrate him and take him more time to figure everything out. I know its horrible waiting and it hurts so bad. But trust me this doesn't necessarily mean the end.
Miruke
oh hunny i am so sorry. that is terrible. maybe he just needs to think things through and if yu do break up maybe he just isn't mature enough to be with you. I have learned that you are only as strong as your greatest weakness so if you can be strong and overcome this. i think you will be a better person, even if it takes a while trust me it is well worth it in the end.
BreBaby92