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JulesH123 
Dh and I hit the stores early this morning for the Black Friday sales. We ran into a former co-worker. She and I were pretty close when we worked together. But since she left four years ago, we have only seen each other a few times. And of course, what was one of the first things she asked me? I am sure you all know, the dreaded question for all us infertile people. "Do you have any kids yet?"
She knew I had surgery for endo a few years ago and knew we were having trouble conceiving. So I really don't know why she asked. Perhaps she asked before she thought. I don't know. But since she knew about some of our troubles in the past, she really should have thought before speaking. Didn't she think if I had had a child or was pregnant that that would have been one of the first things, I would have shared with her?
i just hate that question, and I really wish people wouldn't ask me that. It seems like whenever I meet someone new, especially if they have children that is one of the first things they ask me. I just get so tired of hearing it and when I hear it, it just makes me dwell on our infertile situation even more. I was trying to make it through the holiday weekend without having a breakdown, but I don't think its working.
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I am so sorry. My sister and I were talking about that exact thing tonight. I told her it is wrong for people to assume that everyone either wants or is able to have children and should not ask that question. It makes all this so much harder. I hope the rest of your weekend goes better for you and that you got some good deals this morning.
{{{HUG}}}
Lioness816
I'm sorry you had to go through that. I know I never ask that question. I had someone at work one night ask me about some friends of mine if they were going to have kids. I said I didn't know I don't ask people that question. Some people just cross the line sometimes and that is one way everybody does. Hang in there.
kimmic
I know...the dreaded question, my dh always says, "we would love kids, just hasn't happened yet!" Then he changes the subject. I try to follow his lead. The holidays are so hard. It's like babies and children are the major subject...ugh I understand..
JeanieMarie
Oh I feel your pain. I guess because we blog *most* people know our situation, inside and out! But it still does come up and it always, always hurts. I wish things were going better for you. I hope the rest of the holiday season is smoother sailing--I'm always here to talk.
AshleyPenelope
I hate that question as well. I've often thought that I should wear a bracelet or something that says something to the effect of "no, not yet" so everyone can see it and just save us both the trouble of the awkward questions. Hang in there!
HopefullySomeDay