LillyLaSombra's Journal

For a long time now I have been struggling to get my grandparents to understand why I cannot let my son spend the night at thier house anymore. For one thing, it isn't fair to the other children because they NEVER get a turn, only the middle child gets to go. Second, I strongly suspect they were taking my son to see his biological father behind my back against court orders that he NOT see him because he abused him.

Well, after they called to ask if he could spend the night and I told them "no" again, my grandfather called me back and cursed me out saying he was going to kill my husband, only he called him my step-son's name because he mixed up thier names, and he didn't make a lot of sense. My grandmother cursed out my husband and they called cps on us stating that my husband is abusing my son (totally NOT true!).

So Wednesday my kids are all home from school, I was very sick, the house was a mess, and I get a knock at the door, and it is a case worker. My children misbehaved the whole time she was here, but other than that and the house being a mess, the visit went well, and it appears that they believe my side of the story, that my grandparents are just upset that I won't let my son spend the night anymore. They even asked me about my bipolar because my grandmother likes to point out that I have mental illness as a reason why she doesn't believe anything I say. I was able to respond that yes, while I have been dx'd, I am seeing a therapist and am on medication. I'm even taking my son to therapy... and I have records where I took my children to the doctor just a few weeks ago, so all of that worked in MY favour because I am doing everything responsible. The case worker even took pity on me for being sick because I have huge dark circles under my eyes and one can just look at me and see how sick I am.

Another case worker came yesterday, and the house was clean as I was prepared for it this time. That visit went well, and after they talk to my husband they are going to close the cases. I wasn't  too awfully worried as one might be about the Child's protective services case. I didn't believe anything would come of it really because my husband and I do not abuse our kids and we have already worked two cases with them in the past... each one started by ME. The first one was when my ex abused my son. I reported him and I reported my son for recreating the abuse with my step-son. That was how I found out. The next case was when I was in the mental hospital I told the doctor I was hurting myself and I didn't think I could take care of my kids because I was so sick all the time. I practically TRIED to get them to help me with my kids or take them, but they didn't. I got my kids back from foster care after only one month. They visited the house and decided that I was a good mother and kept a good home, I was just overwhelmed from illness.

What bothers me is not the CPS case... it is that my own grandparents have turned against me in this fashion. They are even being childish about thier resentment to me and they don't even realize they are now swearing with each sentence they speak. I used to be thier "number 1 girl"... the one on the pedestal that could do no wrong.... they swore they would love me forever no matter what. They never spoke a negative word about me EVER until just recently. My mother visited me yesterday and believes as I do that they are getting dementia or something. My husband wondered if they didn't eat something that was bad, and he may be right because they can thier own food a lot and eat questionable items from clearance stores. That would explain why they are BOTH acting so strange. However, thier actions just further prove my point that my son does not need to go by himself to spend the night at thier house anymore. I wish it could be different, but he just isn't safe there with them. My grandfather has guns he shoots a lot in his backyard while my son is there. They live in the city so it is against the law for my grandfather to shoot his guns anyway, let alone the danger my son is in... my grandfather is almost blind too. They are just too old to take care of him overnight alone. They can barely take care of themselves.