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June 29, 2009 5:24am
I am so furious. my husband got the keys to the house from a "friend" who had a spare set and came into the basement and took several …
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afanador 
12:37am, September 25, 2009
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afanador
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About Me
I have recently divorced from my ex who suffers from clinical depression. His condition totally took over him, me and ultimately the marriage. his reluctancy to seek help and his constant abuse made me decide that it was time to let him go, and I move on. since the separation I have recovered from the situation. it has been a heartbreak, but, i am moving on, and life looks a lot brighter. I am a new person inside and out. A toast to my future.
I have recently divorced from my ex who suffers from clinical depression. His condition totally took over him, me and ultimately the marriage. his reluctancy to seek help and his constant abuse made me decide that it was time to let him go, and I move on. since the separation I have recovered from the situation. it has been a heartbreak, but, i am moving on, and life looks a lot brighter. I am a new person inside and out. A toast to my future.
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Uhgg, it is so hard Kim. I know. Just be careful dear, don't hang on to those desires that are not under…
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set back or maybe not!
April 4, 2009 7:49am
ooops, major set back. I have gone through a major breakdown. hubbie not goint anymore to the doctor...although he has mellowed down a bit. but …
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wow, can't beleive where I am
March 24, 2009 7:24am
Iwould have never thought that a day like today would come when I wake up and don't think about him. what a glorious day. I feel so …
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feeling a lot more in control
March 18, 2009 1:35pm
so ai guess that stopping the calls to him have worked a bit. now he calls me but I don't respond. truthfully don't need …
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Sil, just sending you HUGS! I'm worried about you. Haven't heard from you. Are you okay?
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Well Sil, that was a bust. My daughter was upstairs when he called her and she asked him about circus and he said it was only going to be him and her because he ran out of money. I was very sad, but didn't show it in front of her because I know it is a lie. He was also suppose to pay loan well, part of it and didn't. I know he has a lot of money, so money is not the issue at all. I text him 5 min. ago even though I know he is probably sleeping to ask him if he did pay on the loan. Made it look like I wasn't sure. Didn't want to make him mad. But I have to be honest with you this ride is awful.
As far as yours goes, please try and remember there was no contact with mine for over 3 1/2 months so this is normal for them. And also remember I don't have proof that he is taking meds. He lies so much that I really don't know what to believe. Always saying he's broke but then pays cash for a laptop that he knows I have wanted for years and so have the kids. I don't know why they do the things they do. -
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Hi Sil, how are you? I haven't heard from you. Are you okay?
Well, here is how my weekend went. I sent this to Ann also.
Hi Ann, here is what happened. I don't know what to think. My husband had our daughter over the weekend and we have a pool and me and my son tried 4 times to cover it and every time it kept falling right back into pool. When he called I mentioned it and he said when he dropped our daughter off on Sunday he would put it on.
That was the first thing he has done since he has been gone. We had a very civil conversation and he was even joking around a bit saying I owe him. He also told me he went back on meds. 2 weeks ago.
Our daughter came back out of the house and asked him if I could go with them to the circus next weekend with them and he said we'll see (laughing). He said he didn't know if he could afford it which was also a joke because he makes really good money and left me with the bills. He said I will let you know on Sunday (the day they are going) while laughing and he wasn't being sarcastic either. That is his way of joking around.
She said to him "Daddy, mommy never got to go to the circus with us because she was always working, can she come this time?" I jokeing said no I never got to go cause I was always working and would have loved to go with them all the years they went. And I said why can't we just go as friends. But I guess I messed up according to Dbusting. I'm not suppose to ask him anything or to go anywhere with him or him and our daughter. He did bring my son a birthday card. Very plain compared to our daughters card but I guess he made the effort after I mentioned it wasn't right not to do anything for him, because he raised him. I told him I would just get him one and sign his name so my son wouldn't be hurt and he said no he would get him one.
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Hi Sil, thanks for the words of encouragement. I went and made the mistake of telling him I love him and miss him and he told me that we tried for years and it didn't work. Which is a lie. We didn't have any major problems until he stopped taking his meds. but I didn't text back anything. He said he didn't come to the party because he didn't want our daughter to get the wrong idea. And that he is happy now, being alone. Sil, just 2 weeks ago he said he was happy with us and not happy now. I don't get it at all!
Then he kept texting me asking me not to be mad then it was that he will be a lonely old man because he can't make anyone happy or be the person they want him to be. Do I invite him for the holidays and talk to our daughter and tell her that we are just friends? Or do I leave it alone? Please help me out. I'm so depressed again. My girlfriend said it is a pity party for himself, as far as saying he will be alone and can't make anyone happy and wants me to fall for it. But I already told him last night that I loved and missed him. So confused! 
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thank you! I will. you too. later
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