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Alexizmom 
10:59am, August 19, 2009
I was told that "You need to get over it, you have other children!" Get over it? How does anyone expect a mother to get over their baby dying? I just got done carrying this precious angel for 9 months and beating every obsticle that came my way during my pregnancy. I delivered a beautiful, heathy, baby girl. I only got to hold her in my arms and kiss her for 26 very short days. My world turned upside down on December 29,2008 to awake and find my baby dead. Part of me died with her. I relive the moment of finding her everyday. Her look, the feel of her lifeless body and me trying to bring her back with CPR. I think about this everyday all day long. I love her so much and miss her so badly!! I know I have other children believe me they are the only reason that life for me continues. I don't love them less because I am dealing with the loss of Alexiz.
I try not to talk about Alexiz with people. Because I wonder if alot of people feel the same way, " I need to get over it?" I guess people put a time limit on grieving. If someone brings Alexiz up I comment but it is short and brief. I wouldn't wish the feelings I have for loosing my baby on my worst enemy. The pain at times is almost unbearable.
I miss you my precious angel and mommy loves you so very much!!!!!
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There is no "getting over it" there is a point where you just end up living ith it, but really you are still early in your loss depsite what others around you may think. People suck!!!! The hell with em! I will talk about my Nick because it helps me. I refuse to not talk about him because it makes others sad or uncomfortable...they can deal with those feelings....what we feel is a forever loss....there is no getting over that....tell them to piss up a rope!!! HUGS
NickNicksmommykitkat
People who haven't been through what we have been through just don't understand, and never will. It's only been 6 weeks since my Austin died and I talk about him ALL the time. I figure if people don't like it, they will just avoid me and that is fine too. I think something like this shows you who your true friends are.
brandylee82
I always say back would you say that to an amputee "you still have other arms" Our babies that are gone were unique and special. I will never "get over" losing Hank. What kind of person would I be if I acted like he didn't mattter, his birth and death didn't affect my soul. I think you should talk about Alexiz as much as you want to anyone who will listen and if they won't we are all here for you. Much love
dawnp4
I lost my Lily almost one year ago and I still talk about her all of the time. You are right. We don't get over it. We learn how to live with it. We love and miss our babies so much and someone who has never gone through this wouldn't get that. Stay strong girl. I am praying for you.
mommyoflily
I agree with what everyone has said. It's been about 8 weeks since we lost Kaitlyn and there have been occations that I've brought KT up and people change the subject right away because they are uncomfortable. I change it right back. They aren't the ones who lost a child. For me it helps to talk about her. I don't ever want to forget my little munchkin. When i returned to work 2 weeks after she passed i sent an all employee email telling everyone not to be afraid to talk to me or come into my office. I think it helped.
smmcclung