Join Now
marjoe 
5:46pm, September 18, 2009
Came home, went on line to see my messages - and I got one from friends that Joe and I had hung out with in Florida 2 years ago, asking how we were. I could have sworn I sent them an email last year, but apparently not. So, as I sat composing a reply, and it started with "I don't know how to say this, but..." Oh G-d, the tears flowed, like I was saying it for the first time. It's just under the surface, day to day. But all it took was one email.
Comments
Oh Marsha how hard that must have been..Isn't it something, you just don't know what will bring the tears to the surface. I was at a concert over the weekend that was a tribute to Frank Sinatra and the fellow doing the singing sounded just like him. There were some songs that he sang that I just sat there with tears running down my face. How Wally would have enjoyed it. Even now as I write this the tears are starting. Well, I'm off to my group and I hope you're feeling better.
Hugs,
Gloria
GlorN
Dear Marsha, It is natural to feel sad at times...even after 16 months...The way I look at it ,is that loss to death is similar to experiencing an amputation-you always miss the missing limb, and are always aware that it is missing, but you learn to get on as best you can with what you have. These moments are necessary on our journey.. Our consolation is that as long as we remember them...we keep them alive in our hearts... Thinking of you...love and hugs Janine
Jaynine
Marsha: Crying comes natural to us and anything can trigger it. Listening to a song, watching a movie, a phone call, a photo etc and there is nothing we can do to stop the tears from coming. I feel like the tears have become my best friend and it relieves some of pressure we feel bottled inside us. It is been 4 months since Carlos' death and not one day has gone by without me crying. I think that we all have wonderful spouses that we loved and like Jaynine said it is like a limb is missing so we will always miss them. Hope you have a better day today. Hugs Linda
lindalun