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About Me
adesperatemom
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About Me
I'm a single mom of an incredible 13 year old daughter. I left her Dad after 17 years (I love him but it had become unhealthy for all of us) and moved north from Florida. After a few years near family in NJ we moved to our family vacation spot in NY and into a relationship with a friend I've known most of my life. I help my bf at his motel and cottages which gives me the flexibility to be like an at home mom with my daughter. I have battled alcoholism in an extreme physical and mental sense for the past 10 years. Prior to that I was a nightly drinker (noon on weekends) always held good jobs but I always knew I drank more than most.
I'm a single mom of an incredible 13 year old daughter. I left her Dad after 17 years (I love him but it had become unhealthy for all of us) and moved north from Florida. After a few years near family in NJ we moved to our family vacation spot in NY and into a relationship with a friend I've known most of my life. I help my bf at his motel and cottages which gives me the flexibility to be like an at home mom with my daughter. I have battled alcoholism in an extreme physical and mental sense for the
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Thats part of the problem. I lived for my husband and now for my daughter so I don't really know. Even my jobs were always executive secretary to big wigs, hence taking care of them. While I truely enjoy the caregiver role and I adore being a mom, I am having to figure out who I am and what I want to do. I have a big old hounddog, 4 cats and 2 kittens. yea, the shelter likes to see us coming in! I enjoy the outdoors, people, animals, crossword puzzles, watching cooking shows and home decorating shows (so I can pretend I'm going to do it all LOL).
Thats part of the problem. I lived for my husband and now for my daughter so I don't really know. Even
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hello my friend, how are you doing? love to you!
Flower
I shall upload some extra tulip pics for you
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Thank you, im blushing
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lets me and you hold hands psychically today and get through it sober, ok? xoxo marie
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booze is nuts-get someone to come over and be with you. or get out of the house. DONT drink! It is like the devil IMO. Lures us back even if we don't want it.
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Close Alcoholism
Can't seem to put more than a couple weeks together and I'm back at it. I drink at home so can't really "not go there"I've been incredibly fortunate as far as never losing my license or my car. My constantly relapsing is extremely hard on my 13 year old daughter. I went to aa alot when I lived in NJ with lots of meeting times. Here theres not many and hardly any women in the daytime ones. I've read up on it, done the nutritional thing. I love how I feel and the mom I am when I stop.
Treatments
- AA Meetings Working / Worked
- I didn't really do the steps and didn't like the powerlessness but I did get a lot of support. I sometimes got tired of hearing drinking stories and was frustrated that the majority there were like 20 years sober.
- Cold Turkey Working / Worked
- All but one hospital time I did at home and got scarily sick most times.
- Folic Acid Working / Worked
- I guess they helped. I recently had blood work and even though I've been in and out my blood work was good. No side effects but sometimes couldn't take it til a few days of not drinking or I'd get nauseous
- Outpatient Treatment Program Working / Worked
- Had to go for a few months after residential to get my daughter back who was with my mom. It was good but my motives were just getting her back so it didn't last.
- Residential Treatment Center Working / Worked
- Was in for 5 days and sprung back almost one day into it. Didn't help with what to do once I'm home.
- Sleep Working / Worked
- Definitely works. When my daughter isn't home at night I go to bed early to avoid drinking.
- Willpower Working / Worked
- Doesn't work
