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nicoleacola32 
6:59pm, September 3, 2009
Well I ended up calling my friend to see if he got home ok.He didn't sound like he was appologizing and I just said I had to let him go i had another line and hung up.I'm hurt and angry.I've been there for him but when I need somebody nobody's around.I don't need to be treated badly and I have to stick up for myself even if it means leaving the friendship alone for now.I am trying to learn boundaries and he doesn't understand that sometimes it is about me.I have very bad self esteem and want to call him again but I am resisting and letting him come to me.Leaving me alone was hurtful and even though I understand his breakup is hurting him I can't deal with bad behavior.He has bipolar and is not taking his meds.I am concerned but also trying to stop being so codependent and enabling.
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Dear Nicole,
Stop, your enabling him now, and then he hurts your feelings! Yes, I would go to the same lengths as you but this does not sound at all like a friend, break up, meds or not! You need to separate people into three categories, friends, acquaintances and enemies. Each deserves a different type of behavior. He would fall into an acquaintance and you are going to far and getting to upset for a mere acquaintance!!!!! Eric
weinere46
I agree with Eric. Do not stay in contact with those who hurt you. Disconnect from all negative people in your life. You will find that this empowers you and makes a HUGE difference. I learned to do this. It was a hard lesson to learn, but I finally woke up. My life has been so much better since then. Remember, NO negtive people, I don't care who they are! Just DETACH. If it's a relative, just have very, very minimal contact.
Best Wishes,
Judith
SFWriter
Hey... I just wanted to say that your words basically sound like something I could have written in my own journal. I was constantly always there for my bipolar best friend, but now she has decided that she hates me and completely dropped me from her life because I remind her of stuff that she doesn't like/can't accept about herself. If you're ever feeling like nobody's there to talk to, and none of your other friends understands or something like that, totally feel free to send a message my way or find me on the chat or whatever.
-Jen
al4w67
BiPolar is no fun for victim ,friend or family all in his vicinity suffer along with him. It's up to you to take it for what it is or walk away. But if you remain his friend know that you cannot count on him only be there for him its a one sided deal most of the time.
Tobey008