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nicoleacola32 
6:59pm, September 3, 2009
I'm devastated.I went to sing Karaoke with my best friend and 2 other people i'm friends with.My friend was really upset because he broke up with his girlfriend and I tried to cheer him up.He was saying before what a good friend I am,but when he went to the bar it was getting late and my other friend was singing then we were going to leave. He said to me "I hate this i'm leaving." I said as my friend is done singing we are going to go.He got up and left me alone. I don't drive and I had to ask my other friends to take me home.I was so upset I couldn't stop crying when I got home.He has bipolar disorder and is not on his meds but that is no excuse for leaving me.Am I wrong to think this friendship is over. I mean leaving someone who doesn't drive at a bowling alley.I am so upset and even though I'm worried about him I am furious and wondering if this friendship is even worth saving.Help!!
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I'd let some time pass before you make a decision. Friends are valuable and they make mistakes. I've learned that friends change and often grow in other ways but all that doesn't matter when they are the friends of your heart. My advice is to take somwe time before you decide. Sorry to hear your night out didn't go as planned _I"m up if you need to talk.
MSNOW
I'd let some time pass before you make a decision. Friends are valuable and they make mistakes. I've learned that friends change and often grow in other ways but all that doesn't matter when they are the friends of your heart. My advice is to take somwe time before you decide. Sorry to hear your night out didn't go as planned _I"m up if you need to talk.
MSNOW
I'd let some time pass before you make a decision. Friends are valuable and they make mistakes. I've learned that friends change and often grow in other ways but all that doesn't matter when they are the friends of your heart. My advice is to take somwe time before you decide. Sorry to hear your night out didn't go as planned _I"m up if you need to talk.
MSNOW
*hugs* It is worth saving, don't let one night ruin a friendship. Had he been drinking at the bar? Alcohol and depression doesn't mix well and I can understand his wanting to leave so bad, but like you said that was no excuse. Give him time to cool off and take the initiative and tell him how it hurt and that you still want to be friends. Or just tell him the second, lol.
belladeath
Sweets im sorry u had that happen to u. You have a few options on how to deal with this. You can just leave him alone until he comes to talk to u or you can wait a couple of days and give him a call and flat out ask him "whats going on?" and "Why did u leave me?". Tell him how u feel. And then when he answers and how he answers, u will know whether the friendship is worth saving. I hope he apologizes and realizes that it wasnt right to just up and leave u stranded. i understand he is upset over a breakup and mentally unstable, but he is still an adult and supposed to be your friend. Love ya sweets and hope u feel better. I'm here if u ever need to talk. Big hugs! Rachel
Rac87el
Based on my experiences with an unmedicated bipolar, my ex-fiance... you have to be the adult in the relationship. I learned the hard way that simple coping mechanisms that you and I possess they do not.. When my ex would get stressed about anything we would have a manic to deal with. It was horrible for him to leave you stranded like he did. Hopefully he will come around and eventually apologize if he can. In the future I would always have a second game plan in place so that this does not happen again. My ex was trapped in his own little world a lot. Still is for the most part. I still get calls when he is freaking out, usually while he is driving in busy towns. Its not always easy to talk him down and calm him enough so he can function. My ex uses his phone a lot when he gets stressed.. he pretends he is calling the president, the secretary of state, and he even pretends to call the military to launch an attack.. that is just how he copes when he is under stress.... He also thinks he is the foremost authority on everything. The hardest part is that he can manipulate a situation to suit himself and he is very good at it. Other behaviors to watch are stalking, etc.. they often can not let friendships go. I would be very concerned for the health and welfare of the girl he broke up with.
KelleyP
Bi-Polar people can be difficult when everything is going well for them but when faced with a trauma like an emotional breakup. Their behavior is going to be bizarre to a mentally healthy person. I'm sorry he left you there but you managed to get through it. perhaps you could organize an intervention with some of his other friends and maybe some family to convince him he needs to go back to his meds.
Tobey008
Dear Nicole,
A real friend would not do this to you ever. Think of this person as an acquaintance not a friend and leave it at that. people think either friend or enemy but they forget that acquaintances are not quite friends nor enemies. He sounds like this type. Eric
weinere46
Bi-polar people act this way when traumatized.
It is as if they have an attitude change when they get off ther medications.
mirzy
Let a little time pass. In the world of Bipolar - especially without meds - AND when something bad has happened to them - it takes them some time to reflect on things that have happened and the, when they get back on their meds, it takes even more time. I have no meds right now and I'm mad at the whole world - I'm a complete loon. But I know when I finally get back on my meds and I find a more stable place in my life I'll be ok - and then I'll have to apologize to all the people I've hurt - which I've been doing a lot of lately.
DeniseLeigh