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Journal Entry for January 8, 2009
Thursday, January 8, 2009

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   this is one subject i can truelly relate to i myself have had a bad habit in the past of just riding the storm out but it never truelly works for the better or so it seems it all came clear one day and the funny thing is with a 4.0 average in college in marriage counseling its funny my mother brought me to the realization of one true fact she called me one day and said baby whats wrong i said mom im not happy i felt as if i was just there wasting yet another time in my life which i couldnt get back and mom said baby if your not happy just leave wow and left i did and never looked back life is far to short to live with anything else that makes us unhappy and if you have years in the relationship it seems why throw it all away but if your going nowhere its just best to go somewhere well dont know if this will help but god bless you and hope it gets better for you

   
   

   wonderingaimlessly

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   elizabeth, this is difficult but if you feel you need him around at the moment then stay with it, but you have to consider that if the realtionship is bringin your mood down in anyway then its not worth it,
   also while you continue to be with him you wont put any effort to find (or attract) a relationship that will bring you comfort, love and all the other great things you deserve.
   you need to surround yourself with as much possitivity as possible to help you move forward

   
   

   soultosoul

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   Don't worry about the cussing, hon. I'm a long time cursing SOB, and don't care. If it offends some, then they should ignore me, and quit talking to me. I've been to hell and back more than a hundred times with problems, but only once in nearly 32 years with my wife. Things are very bad now, and both she and our younger daughter are very sick,,maybe dying. The doctors here are asses of the first class, and only bitch about anybody taking more than 10 minutes of their precious time. I appreciate you contacting me. I'm not sure how you did that unless you stumbled across one of my many hell-raising posts. Thank you at least for caring. I find compassion severely lacking in this rat race society, but feel there is no hope left in our situation. You are young, and should dump this character who sounds like a toxic boyfriend or whatever. I'd rather be alone than have to deal with a lousy partner. My wife is a wonderful, and pretty woman who I never deserved, being an old country loner for so many years. Our younger daughter has been sick and slowly dying from a very serious case of Systemic Lupus, for 14 years now, and after awhile, nobody cares. My wife has been devastated and I stick by her as both she and our daughter are in dire health. Thanks for your suggestions, but I am too worn out to do much more other than basics at home now on a very limited income. I am watching them die before my eyes, and nobody around here cares. The doctors are pompous asses, and I vow to make them pay dearly if I lose both my wife and child. This is getting deadly serious, but I have been very patient, and that is wearing very thin. I wish you the best. Huggs, Goliad

   
   

   Goliad

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   You most definately are not a shallow person.sometimes in life we end up compromising things here and there that go against what we ultimately believe and feel,and it often happens when we are overwhelmed or too tired.As someone said above,I have been stuck in unhappy situations that I thought I would never see the end of,because I will stick with it to the end.I am loyal to a fault.I am in that situation now.
   Unfortunately we are all too human,and act accordingly.I support you Elizabeth,whatever your decisions are.Your a good person,and your circumstances don't change that.Don't think that every other person does not have some problems or habits that they try to hide.I don't care what flys out of your mouth(I'm a cusser too),because it is intentions of the heart that count.IMHO.((((hugs))),and lots of love-Jen

   
   

   IamJen

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   Yesss, Jen is a cusser. I knew I liked you for a reason. Wellll that and you're a sweetheart. :)
   Being human is tough, I'm not sure I'm a fan of all the strings attached to that.
   You are in the same situation now too?
   I am not loyal to a fault, in fact I'm quite often the opposite. I'll hit the ground running all too often, it's this weird impulsiveness that makes me do it.
   I break up with this guy like twice a month. I think I just am happy to have something (him), even though I know that in time I will choose something else and I also know that there are more options in the world. I don't feel stuck. I just know I'm not being wise to stay....however it is what I choose - for now.
   By the way, you bring up a good point about the heart's intention. I briefly mentioned an ex of mine and how he spoke in an overly formal manner. He had a tendency to also say things that were accidentally hurtful. What I finally had to learn (and still do because I'm neurotically sensitive) is that it is the INTENTION that matters. That's the main thing that has helped me with my oversensitivity.
   
   You're a sweetheart.

   
   

   PerhapsOneDay

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