BlueLaura's Journal

My sweetheart and I just got married yesterday.  It's so funny because it was just another ordinary day, no big ceremony or anything, just a notary public and a couple of witnesses.  We've actually been dating for over 8 years and were engaged in April, so it's not as if it were a sudden event, albeit unplanned.  What brought it on like this?  Well, I'm starting a new job in a couple of weeks, and he has been on my insurance plan while I've been in grad school for the past four years or so.  When I asked if he could be on my new plan, the response was that we needed to be married.  So, there you go!  Just another checklist item that needed to be checked before I began my new job.  It's so funny to me how incredibly pragmatic and unromantic we are, but we're both engineers, so it also makes a lot of sense.  We're both really getting a kick out of it - calling each other husband and wife.  The question now is, do we tell our parents?  We're still thinking of putting on a big ceremony for everyone... it's just that we're very reluctant to spend the money and plan the whole thing.  I would like to tell everyone, so I don't have to go through with anything else.  But, my husband really wants to do the whole ceremony and celebration with friends and family, so I respect that.  Gosh, it just makes me chuckle to think of our "secret" wedding.  I'm so happy to be married to such a great man.

The thing that added to it all is that I was supposed to be signing a Purchase and Sales Agreement for a home that I'm buying near my new job - my first home (well, he has a home, too... again, we're strange).  And my real estate attorney called during the ceremony.  When I called back, I said, "I was just in the middle of getting married when you called."  Which is hilarious, she was a bit floored by the news, then passed it along to my real estate agent.  And now, they just think I'm nuts that I got married and didn't tell anyone... I guess since it wasn't really planned, I didn't even really think about it until it was happening!  

I'm just cracking up.  I know that I'm a different kind of bird, and not many people get it.  But, it really is about the marriage and not the wedding to me.  So, can this be it and no spending thousands of dollars to pay for a party?!?!  I must be one of the few women in the world who does not want to do a big wedding - and this is my first and only!  :o)