AnnM

Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Child

My 19 year old son, Daren was killed in work related accident in 2006. He was trying to do a good job...to do the right thing. His sacrafice will be remembered.

Treatments

Crying Working / Worked

Crying does relieve stress and welled up emotion. I prefer to cry privately, but sometimes I cannot hold back my grief.

DailyStrength Working / Worked

My lifeline! ForMomsOnly group here on DS is my lifeline. The compassion, love & understanding are vital to my being.

Grief Counseling Somewhat Helpful

Insurance does not offer grief counseling...Compassionate Friends helpful

Keeping Busy Somewhat Helpful

Work, finally can read a little for pleasure...very hard to stay focused

Massage Working / Worked

Friends and family have paid for massage and relaxation spa treatments

Music Working / Worked

I use music for a variety of things...relaxation, emotional release, and distraction

Pets Working / Worked

2 golden labs sense my sadness and try to soothe me...sometimes in the early days they are what got me out of bed.

Prayer Working / Worked

I prayed regulaily before this, but since it is a way of life...I pray for strength, guidence,wisdom

Psychotherapy Considering

I am a very private person, so this is a hard one for me. But I am willing to pursue if needed.

Reading Working / Worked

Mostly self help for the longest time and still do--mostly about grief and rebuilding your life. just now reading for pleasure...hard to stay focused on this though...

Remembering Working / Worked

It soothes my soul when others tell me of my child...just them saying his name, acknowledging his existance means so much. I have others who don't and I feel so isolated.

Scrapbooking Considering

This has been difficult, but as the 1 year mark passes I hope to be better able to handle this.

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

Would be lost without my closest friends...and my husband and children. My parents and sisters have left me disappointed, but I understand. My husbands family have been wonderful.

Support Groups Working / Worked

DS is my main group. I have attended Compassionate Friends and would continue, but for the distance I must travel to attend meetings and schduleing between 2nd job makes it difficult. Joined several DS Moms from ForMomsOnly here on DS in Charleston for a retreat...WONDERFUL Women!

Talking Working / Worked

I would love to do more of this, but find few who can stomach the heartache much less understand, some may be tired of listening.

Time Working / Worked

I hate the cliche Time is a healer, but it is...as time goes by I am more clear in my thoughts and feelings--less numb--maybe numb is good?!

Writing Working / Worked

My salvation...keeps my head clear, a way to dump my garbage and a way to enlighten the burdeon in my soul.

Close The Financial Crisis

I am working 2 jobs, husband is working 1 1/2...times are tough...nearing mid 50's...worried about retirement funds and credit/loan availability, housing market/equity.