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SackOCrap 
10:54am, July 11, 2009
it's really weird being gone from DS for a while. I don't quite know where to pick back up, you know? I think I need to just start reading posts and responding and get over myself, LOL.
This week was mighty hard. After 16 years in the same job, I did temp work. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I didn't expect it... the emotions were just like what you would feel if you were quite suddenly divorced and thrown into the dating world again. It was just weird. But I know now that I would've had to experience that eventually, so I am glad I got it over with early in the process.
I explored legal action... talked to 2 attorneys. The second attorney brought me back to reality, bless her heart. She saw from my questionnaire that I'm a recovering alcoholic. Turns out so is she. She talked to me not just as an employment law expert but also as a fellow alkie. Without even knowing much about me, and certainly without telling me what to do, she reminded me of who I am, who I HAVE to be. I am all about keeping my side of the street clean, not worrying about what everyone else is doing, not obsessing over making life fair. My job is to be the best person I can be. My job is not about proving I am right or making others do the right thing.
It helped, a lot. I signed the paperwork saying I released my employer from liability. I am moving on now.
Sigh...
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hi! good to see you! don't u hate cliche's, me too...ok, here's one, "when one door closes, another opens". it's a major stressor, losing job. i'm job hunting, so we can do it together. yeah, we need some life around here, so get back in the swing. see ya on the boards.
ElenaNJ
Good to see you! You sound like you've got some perspective and wisdom. Indeed, just be the best "you" possible, that's enough for anyone to handle.
{{{{{hugs}}}}}
Daisylou
I do see the wisdom in what that attorney said to you; my only problem is, don't you still feel like you're letting them get away with something? I know, it's a problem of mine. I've always struggled with the concept of TRULY letting go of being hurt, or used or abused, and I feel for you and what you went through.
Kudos to you for being able to do it, though!
deekay
Glad to see that you're back. xxx
ScaredandScarred