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SackOCrap 
10:54am, July 11, 2009
I was back, then gone, then back, then gone... the problem is, when I am on this emotional roller coaster, I feel useless here, and I am more about being useful than about getting support. Which is really not a productive way to live. I know that I have to be able to ask for and accept support if I want to give it... it has to work both ways.
So I'm gonna try to just hang out here a bit, read, respond to posts when I feel I can...
I AM uplifted by the support you all are sending while I'm not around so much. Thank you all.
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it's really weird being gone from DS for a while. I don't quite know where to pick back up, you know? I think I need to just start reading posts and responding and get over myself, LOL.
This week was mighty hard. After 16 years in the same job, I did temp work. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I didn't expect it... the emotions were just like what you would feel if you were quite suddenly divorced and thrown into the dating world again. It was just weird. But I know now that I would've had to experience that eventually, so I am glad I got it over with early in the process.
I explored legal action... talked to 2 attorneys. The second attorney brought me back to reality, bless her heart. She saw from my questionnaire that I'm a recovering alcoholic. Turns out so is she. She talked to me not just as an employment law expert but also as a fellow alkie. Without even knowing much about me, and certainly without telling me what to do, she reminded me of who I am, who I HAVE to be. I am all about keeping my side of the street clean, not worrying about what everyone else is doing, not obsessing over making life fair. My job is to be the best person I can be. My job is not about proving I am right or making others do the right thing.
It helped, a lot. I signed the paperwork saying I released my employer from liability. I am moving on now.
Sigh...
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hi! good to see you! don't u hate cliche's, me too...ok, here's one, "when one door closes, another opens". it's a major stressor, losing job. i'm job hunting, so we can do it together. yeah, we need some life around here, so get back in the swing. see ya on the boards.
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Good to see you! You sound like you've got some perspective and wisdom. Indeed, just be the best "you" possible, that's enough for anyone to handle.
{{{{{hugs}}}}}
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I do see the wisdom in what that attorney said to you; my only problem is, don't you still feel like you're letting them get away with something? I know, it's a problem of mine. I've always struggled with the concept of TRULY letting go of being hurt, or used or abused, and I feel for you and what you went through.
Kudos to you for being able to do it, though!
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Glad to see that you're back. xxx
Wow, what a crappy 2 weeks. I got fired, grampa passed away, and now I have a cold. It has truly been one trial after another. It's really been fine, I've handled it all OK, but I knew I would not be any good to anyone in need, so I haven't logged in to DS in ages.
So I'm gonna try to be "back" today, in between job searching and housecleaning.
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hi, sorry about your grandfather. hope you can keep your spirits up. i think i'ts been quiet on the boards here. i've come on every so often since the kids are home, which means entertaining them and more housework. but, i'm ok. hope your job seearch is short. if not, hang in there. talk soon. elena
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welcome back!
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I dont even know what to say about the events.
sorry.
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Sorry for all that has been dumped on you, ...
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OMG, the only place I can find my old job advertised is... wait for it... CraigsList! Are they serious?!
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Goal Updated
Ur right u have to get support and take care of urself before you can suport us....i hope u are weill
Itzjustme
P.S. it really is an emotional roller coaster... I just found out a colleague was "laid off" today (my old employer)... they have NEVER laid anyone off in the entire history of the business, and she doesn't know it but part of what they yelled at me about involved something she did... she doesn't need to know it either. Being laid off will be easier to move on from... but this sent me into emotional overdrive once again....
SackOCrap
You know I am here for you too you just have to let me be.
StrugglingtoSurvive
Oh hun. :(
Andante
im sorry!
Itzjustme
I think it is more about the quality of what you do when you can be here, and from what I have seen, you are honest, but never in a rude way (well, except maybe to telemarketers..lol) and you seem genuinely interested in keeping the depression boards running smoothly. We cannot ask for more than that! Hugs xx
lilsquirt
I think you have hit the nail on the head so to speak , it is so much easier at times to help others than it is to ask for help ourselves. I hope that you are able to ask people for that extra lift when you need it. I'm sure all your friends - me included- will try and help if we can - just ask x
higgsy100
I think you have hit the nail on the head so to speak , it is so much easier at times to help others than it is to ask for help ourselves. I hope that you are able to ask people for that extra lift when you need it. I'm sure all your friends - me included- will try and help if we can - just ask x
higgsy100
Hey, thinking about you and hoping that things are getting better.
ThePepperMan
Hugs hunnie where here for you. :)
xxxxxxx
hope you feel better soon
Willnevergiveup
You aren't useless on here, you are fabulous! But I do understand & agree with the fact you have to take time for yourself, too! I don't think any less of you for it! Hope to see you on again soon! Lots of love!
Hanzy
useless?
hun, i do believe thats a SackOCrap.
KristoferKries