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Open Breakups & Divorce

Just filed for divorce 3 weeks ago. Served my husband with a restraining order upon the suggestion of a police officer, after sharing with him some of my husband's behaviors towards me and the kids. Jeff considers this totally unfounded, of course. He doesn't think the way he treats us is emotionally or physically abusive. But I'll let the police and the courts decide that one. Right now we're waiting for our court date to see if the temporary restraining order will become permanent for a year.

Treatments

Couples Counseling Somewhat Helpful

This usually works for a time, but then things turn to crap again in a few months.

Family Therapy Somewhat Helpful

We've benefited from this because our two special needs children take a heavy toll on our emotional reserves, which in turn affects our relationship, of course. It helps to get us all on the same page, since Jeff and I tend to disagree on many parenting issues.

Forgiveness Somewhat Helpful

Forgiveness is great b/c it delivers YOU from the effects of bitterness on your soul, but it does not mean that you have to continue putting up with ill treatment.

Music Somewhat Helpful

Music helps anything!

Prayer Too Soon to Tell

We have had tons of people praying. I know that it has at least helped in that we had made it as far as we did. But now we need prayer mostly for what our kids are going through

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

If I couldn't discuss what bothers me about our relationship with someone who has more insight than I do, I think I would go crazy.

Reading Somewhat Helpful

Works for me personally, but part of our problem has been getting him to read information that would really help us. Now that I have filed for divorce, he's decided reading is a good thing. Too little, too late.

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

I could not have had the courage and assurance and peace that I do if I did not have the unequivical support of my family and friends.

Support Groups Working / Worked

DS is the best!

Talking Not Working

This can often lead to fighting, since we have communication problems and just can't seem to get each other to understand our point of view until we talk about things with a counselor. Other times, when we can both keep our cool and be open to understanding, it has been healing, or at least relieving, to a point. But the problems always seem to resurface, or new ones pop up all the time. I'm just too exhausted to try to talk about anything anymore

Time Not Working

I've already given this too MUCH time. Should have left the man years ago, as evidenced by how much peace we now have in this house and how much the kids are blossoming without his constant controlling and screaming.

Open Family & Friends of Bipolar

I have a 12 yr. old daughter with bipolar disorder. It is believed that she also has ADHD. She's be dx'd in the past with all sorts of things, GAD, SENSORY INTEGRATION DYSFUNCTION, ODD, OCD...I feel at my wit's end, not only in the emotional energy it takes to deal with her severe moods, but also the grief of not knowing how to help her...