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I'm so sorry for your pain. I've been there and understand.
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are you a Christian by chance? im really sry about your situation we WILL get through this
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It is horrible to learn that a spouse is cheating. I am terribly sorry that you are going though this, especially at this time of the year. How horrible that she would blame you. She cheated, she broke vows. It isn't your fault.
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sorry to hear , been there , my X did it to me 15years ago . thought we worked it out . then i find out for 15 years it's been going on off and on . then she final left after 32 years . it's not easy belive me
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Close Breakups & Divorce
Found out yesterday my wife was having an affair with some guy. The story is actually complicated by my illness and its effects on our sex life coupled with her perception that I've failed to adequately address the problem. So, she told me she would get her needs met as discretely as possible if I did not want to leave our 2 kids. Soooo, this is essentially all my fault from her perspective. I am devastated adn could use a little advice. Thanks.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Not Working
- wasn't useful for our issues
- Forgiveness Not Working
- Love Not Working
- Psychotherapy Not Working
- my wife is clinically depressed, on meds, but they haven't helped
- Reading Not Working
- difficult to follow through on a long term basis ( my fault)
- Talking Not Working
- she says I've not done enough
- Time Not Working
- too long has passed by
Close Kidney Stones
I am a urologist with 15 years of treating kidney stones.
Treatments
- Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Working / Worked
- Need to make at least 2 liters of urine a day. water is best, but lemonade from real lemons juice is also good
- Surgery Working / Worked
- Be careful. do your homework. any doctor that wont take the time to explain things to you shold send you running for the door
Open Renal Cell Carcinoma (Kidney Cancer)
I am a urologist and have taken care of lotsof people in your situation
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- Nephrectomy Working / Worked
- whether partial or radical, open or laparoscopic, still the only good option.
Open Urinary Incontinence
I am a urologist with a 15 year experience in genera urology, including female and male incontinence and bladder disorders.
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- Detrol Somewhat Helpful
- fairly effective, commonly used, rel low side effect profile
- Ditropan Working / Worked
- probably the strongest, but has the most side effects ie. dry mouth, constipation
- Enablex Somewhat Helpful
- its ok
- Kegel Exercise Working / Worked
- will help but youve got to have pure stress incontinence and be very motivated and concientious about doing them 2-3 times a day
- VESIcare Working / Worked
- good drug, use it a lot with good success
Open Life After Divorce
Heading in this direction, unfortunately. Not of my own volition.
Open Infidelity
Briefly, I have an illness which requires me to take meds tht have obliterated my libido and caused ED. After attempting to deal with it for a few years, my wife has finally gotten fed up and decided to seek sexual activity outside of our marriage. So, now I am the cuckolded husband, trying to decide what to do. I love my wife and we've been married 21 years. She blames the entire problem on me and her perception that I've done little to help change the situation (which i disagree with.
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- Couples Counseling Not Working
Open Healthy Sex
Looking for a way to resume a healthy sex life
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