My husband and I are very discouraged, …
My husband and I are very discouraged, but we keep praying that it (getting preg.) will happen. I haven't really been …
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tmicdownton 
1:52pm, October 21, 2009
Landon will be 4 weeks old tomorrow. So hard to believe! He is a wonderful baby, but I am totally exhausted. I am also frustrated with my DH. He is still sleeping (past 11:00 am) and I have been up doing my 2-3 hour feedings, which include pumping, breast feeding, rocking, changing diapers. I vented my frustrations to him this morning at 8:30 am. I told him that we need a system or something, because he will promise to take this or that shift, but then it always changes to "well I meant tomorrow I will stay up with him" and I am always left tired and cranky. I can't believe after telling him how tired I am he fell back to sleep without hesitation. I think guys have it made. He gets to leave the house when he wants, meets his friends for lunch every day, spends money on what he wants (yet when I spend money on stuff I need I get the guilt trip). Another thing - I explained to him that remaining intimate is important in a relationship, especially since sex is out for yet another couple weeks at least. He hardly hugs me, much less romantic kisses or anything. I can name 2 or 3 times since Landon's birth that we were even somewhat romantic. I got all dressed up for dinner the other night (hot rolled my hair, etc), which is quite a task these days and he didn't even comment about me at all. Sometimes I feel like there is no point to going out of my way when he doesn't seem to notice or care. I can feel myself drifting away from him. I know that this sort of thing can happen after the birth of a baby, but I am getting worried that things will never be the same. All that being said, I am having the time of my life being a mommy to my new son. He is well worth all the fatigue and stress. I thank God for him several times a day.
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I am so sorry you are going through this with your dh. Have you told him you need to sit down and have a serious talk. Whenever there is something that is really important to me, I tell my dh, "this is a 10 for me!" We have a little rating system in a way. He knows I mean business when I say that. I'm know it is common for couples to go through these things with a new baby. I'm sure me and dh will as well. One good thing is we have two dogs and one is still a puppy, it has helped us prepare for a baby. Dh gets up in the morning with the pup. Its at least made me see that he can make himself get up to take care of someone or something else.
Anyway, I hope things get better for you two. I'm sure you are exhausted! Hang in there sweetie. Glad to hear Landon is doing so well! Not much longer for me now!
JeanieMarie
Hang in there. When Philip was first born I went through the same thing. After Mel went back to work, I had a breakdown--couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, etc. I had no family here and was beside myself. I would call my DH crying at his job about my stress levels. My mom recommended hiring a local nurse to come relieve me and I did that for about 3 weeks and it was a lifesaver even though it was expensive. The nurse would come in and make sure I ate a meal, drank a glass of water, showered if I needed to, then sent me off to nap while she fed and rocked Philip for me for about 3-4 hours a day. A nurse may not be the best option but if you are wiped out and DH can't pitch in, do you have friends locally who would love to have a couple hours of baby time to give you a much needed break? I know with Philip getting older I miss the feel of an infant in my arms. If we were closer I'd be over to help in a heartbeat! Keep the lines of communication flowing with DH. Once you're past the c-section thing, do some pumping and let DH take Landon for a whole afternoon one weekend. Once he sees it's not that easy, maybe he'll see things in a different perspective. Praying for you!
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