flyingfree's Journal

'We Admitted that we were powerless over others that our lives had become unmanageable'

This step is tough for me because there are parts of me that want to hang onto the idea that my old ways can function so I first need to figure out what I have to give up, I think this is the real key to this step.

1. Give up justifying avoiding and procrastinating on the basis that I am afraid that I will screw up when I try to do something

2. Give up justifying my irresponsability as a justifyable rebellion to people scrutinizing me

3. Give up the idea that I must have a job by Christmas

4. Give up the notion that my marrige is viable as it currently stands

5. Give up the idea that rebelious and defensive behaviours may be justifyable

6. Give up the idea that my wife is responsibe for the problems of our marrige

7. Give up looking for reassurance in the approval of others

8. Give up reacting to all criticisums of my self in a defensive matter

9. Give up the idea that I don't need the help of others to find work

10. Give up justifying irresponsibility on the basis that I am useless at everything