TheJourneyFMO

Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Child

Loss of a child/children

Treatments

Crying Working / Worked

When you cry, do you feel better? They say that tears cleanse the soul.

Getting Angry Working / Worked

Have you identified what or who you are angry at? Did you know that it is OK to be mad. Perhaps it needs to be identified. I have been angry at many different things and people (including my child and God...and that is OK).

Grief Counseling Working / Worked

Some of us had Bereavement counseling in addition to group counceling, family counseling, Grief groups and this online community. Do what works for you. If you feel yourself "stuck" perhaps you should inquire about this with your providers. If you don't like the group, try another.

Helping Others Working / Worked

Volunteer, support of newly grieving mothers in Groups ForMomsOnly & ForMommysOnly, ForMomsOnly THE JOURNEY, Education, Pay it Forward--random acts of kindness

Keeping Busy Working / Worked

Busy, Busy, Busy. This does help, but remember to also take time to grieve your loss. It is said that "grief waits"...you cannot avoid it.

Music Working / Worked

We all have our coping mechanisms. Music works for many. In the beginning of my Journey I could barely stand any type of noise. Soft meaningful music spoke to me--Yes it made me cry, but I think that it helped me by not allowing it to hold it in.

Pets Working / Worked

Devoted pets such know when we hurt and are there for us to comfort us. Hey somedays, they were my reason for getting up each day.

Poetry Working / Worked

Some say that poetry is the song of the soul. There were some poems that spoke to me and gave me the words that I could not express.

Prayer Working / Worked

When grief brought me to my knees, it seemed logical that as long as I was there I should pray! lol And pray I did...for forgiveness, for strength, for answers. He always listens.

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

Some of us use counseling services for individual/family counseling. Again, if you are "stuck" please seek out a counselor. If you have one and are not comfortable with the counselor--try another--don't give up. Remember that family relationships are under stress as communication is difficult, consider family counseling if necessary.

Reading Working / Worked

It took some time to be able to read and understand...as well as to focus. I had a hard time with pleasure reading...my diet included self-help books on grief, spirituality, Bible and depression

Remembering Working / Worked

How do you handle your memories? Memories are a double edged sword. Our grief numbs us at first and we are left feeling blank...some memories are hard to access. As the fog clears our memories start coming back. Although I want to remember every one, some are painful others are tender and still others are funny.

Scrapbooking Working / Worked

How many of you already scrapbooked? If not and you are like me, you now desperately want to capture and preserve this precious snapshots of your family and your child. Our lives seem to be just snapshots now...maybe one day they will be motion pictures again! lol

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

There are times that we will feel abandoned even by our closest friends and family. Be patient with them. They cannot fully understand the depths of our pain and suffering. Each person heals at their own rate and in their own time. Their journey will be different than ours.

Support Groups Working / Worked

My favorite support group is right here-- Daily Strength...and within that: ForMomsOnly, ForMommysOnly, ForMomsOnly THE JOURNEY I have found that the women here in these groups are angels and have set me on the course to grieving forward and have given me hope, faith, love & light.

Talking Working / Worked

Journaling, talking on the phone, in person... yak yak yak...We need to talk all of this out...who better to talk to that another grieving mother?

Time Working / Worked

Time heals...maybe for some, but for most women it seems that it just gives them an opportunity to slowly fold grieve into ourselves and making something positive out of our grief. If not, it could well send us into a dark hole, a pit of despair. Time allows us to slowly make the changes that we need to do for ourselves, so that our faces can one day feel the warm sun.