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So things have been going well. I've been pretty happy with life and have been really comfortable by myself. I guess in the sense that I don't need anyone. It's a freeing feeling. That said, however, I have gone on a few dates just for fun, one of which was a total dud...basically I went on a date with a guy AND a girl on that one. He has some crazy friend who is obsessed with him, low and behold about 45 minutes into hanging out she frickin walked in the place with Apples to Apples in her hand to "join the party." SOOOOO weird. She is one crazy screwed up chick. I did have a blast though because we essentially ignored her the whole night, but he is definitely not what I'm looking for. He made some racist comments, likes, no LOVES Eminem and rap (gag me, I draw a line), and he comes from money and is not afraid to let you know that. Commenting on one of our group member's Chanel earrings is not really a dude I could EVER be with. So it was laughable, but I'm sure we will probably hang out again. I did have fun.
The juicy date though is a guy who "comes with baggage" as my sister said, but hell, I understand where she is coming from but he doesn't see it as baggage, it's just part of who he is. We essentially laid everything on the table on our first date, like a this is who I am. He is 27, has a 6 year old son, he is full-time Air Guard as an aircraft mechanic, is toward the end of finalizing a divorce, he is into the same music I am, and he plays/ed the bass. So, you probably read that and say the same thing as my sister, but honestly he has everything together. I reciprocated in our honesty and laying it out with major things in our life and I told him about my addiction. He had probably the best response I've ever gotten from anyone. And he didn't judge me at all and actually understood. We talked about addictions for a bit and he is going to quit smoking for good at the first of the year (trying some new prescription). He has smoked since he was 15 and even over the course of our 2 and a half hours or so he smoked three times (once when he was waiting for me). I'm sure a lot of that was nerves though. Needless to say we were both super nervous (my hands were even trembling!) and he is super shy so there were lag times over the course of the night, but overall I had a good time. He is really intriguing to me and I'd like to get to a more comfortable level with him. We're going to go to a Walleyes game soon so hopefully that will loosen us both up. I did tell my family about him though, and told them about his son's mom, his ex-wife, his son. I asked my mom what she thought and she just plainly said, "if you had a good time, go for it, see where it goes." It was definitely a relief to get that reaction. Overall though the night was so different than other dates I've been on. It was SUCH a breath of fresh air to have a guy who has his head on straight and knows what he wants. It was so apparent that he is comfortable with who he is and if you don't like it, leave it. I really appreciated his honesty with everything and loved the fact that both of us just put it out there because neither wants to waste the other's time. So we'll see. He had drill this weekend and his son next weekend, so meeting up before the Walleyes game might be a little difficult. I'm excited though and DEFINITELY wasn't expecting this.
The juicy date though is a guy who "comes with baggage" as my sister said, but hell, I understand where she is coming from but he doesn't see it as baggage, it's just part of who he is. We essentially laid everything on the table on our first date, like a this is who I am. He is 27, has a 6 year old son, he is full-time Air Guard as an aircraft mechanic, is toward the end of finalizing a divorce, he is into the same music I am, and he plays/ed the bass. So, you probably read that and say the same thing as my sister, but honestly he has everything together. I reciprocated in our honesty and laying it out with major things in our life and I told him about my addiction. He had probably the best response I've ever gotten from anyone. And he didn't judge me at all and actually understood. We talked about addictions for a bit and he is going to quit smoking for good at the first of the year (trying some new prescription). He has smoked since he was 15 and even over the course of our 2 and a half hours or so he smoked three times (once when he was waiting for me). I'm sure a lot of that was nerves though. Needless to say we were both super nervous (my hands were even trembling!) and he is super shy so there were lag times over the course of the night, but overall I had a good time. He is really intriguing to me and I'd like to get to a more comfortable level with him. We're going to go to a Walleyes game soon so hopefully that will loosen us both up. I did tell my family about him though, and told them about his son's mom, his ex-wife, his son. I asked my mom what she thought and she just plainly said, "if you had a good time, go for it, see where it goes." It was definitely a relief to get that reaction. Overall though the night was so different than other dates I've been on. It was SUCH a breath of fresh air to have a guy who has his head on straight and knows what he wants. It was so apparent that he is comfortable with who he is and if you don't like it, leave it. I really appreciated his honesty with everything and loved the fact that both of us just put it out there because neither wants to waste the other's time. So we'll see. He had drill this weekend and his son next weekend, so meeting up before the Walleyes game might be a little difficult. I'm excited though and DEFINITELY wasn't expecting this.
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