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lonelyinNY
Female, 40, NY
"LIFE IS A LEMON AND I WANT MY MONEY BACK!!"
6:23am, September 28, 2009
Still Here Mood
Saturday, November 21, 2009
Funny i just noticed that it has been exactly a month since I last wrote in my journal.I guess thats how long I let my deppression build up before I just cant keep it bottled up anymore.Every day seems  to be slideing into the next.I have been spending alot of time in bed and when I am up I dont bother getting dressed.I feel like an emotional mess and I cant seem to snap out of it.My financial situation is literly makeing me physically ill.....I feel all alone and the darkness is swallowing me alive.My little ones gave me thier Christmas lists and I just shut myself in my bedroom and cried.I have been trying to sell things on craigslist for money with no luck.I cant stop the tears now as I write...I cant handle all these problems on my own anymore . I have no physical friends anymore and I barely leave the house unless I have to.I am tired of cooking,cleaning,laundry and trying to make ends meet.......Where is the person I used to be???? I took care of everyone and everything .Worked full time and never had a minute to rest.Now I am a waste of space...I just want to go back to the silence and darkness of my bedroom....
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  1. jsreichard

    I understand where you are coming from. i am in the same space right now. I find it very hard if not impossible to get out of bed and when I do I stay in the same clothes for days. I mean, I don't do anything, I don't go anywhere, so why change. I undestand the finacial thing too. Even if i wanted to go somewhere or do something i couldn't because we have no money. Our roof is falling in, our washer broke and we were without hot water for more than 6 months. we also have no heat because our furnace it broken. Now we are having problems with our only car. My husband needs it to go to work, so if it breaks down things will only get 10 times worse if that is possible. I am trying my 3rd different depression meds in 2 months because none of them seem to work. I feel like telling the Dr. no how can it work, it doesn't change anything. All I can do is get up every day and put one foot in front of the other. I try telling myself that I should remember how much things can change and how different things were 10 years ago and that things will be much different 10 years from now then they are. i hope it is for the better. I have no real advice to offer, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and to keep trudging on. (((HUGGS)))


    jsreichard

  2. sandybeach101

    You are not a waste of space Tammy. You are a loving friend that I am very proud, happy and blessed to know. Even if you can't get anything for Christmas your family is blessed to have you as their mom and we are all lucky to know you. You are doing your best and this is all you can do. I know that your kids are giving you a lot of pressure with their wishes but they may not be able to get this at this time, this does not mean they will never get things. Your pets are lucky too and I believe you are the same person you used to be but only better because you are learning so much. Please don't feel you are a waste of a person. You are a very good person. I love ya. I hope you will be able to do something very nice for Thanksgiving.


    sandybeach101

  3. sandybeach101

    I pray that you will be ok and you will know you are good and you are a blessing. Please don't feel like you are not. You are amazing even with what you go through you still are an inspiration and help people.


    sandybeach101

  4. TerciopeloVerde

    I can understand where you're coming from in regards to the depression, though I don't know what I would do with the added stress of children. Please know that I sincerely hope things get better for you. I am not religious, but I have always appreciated the generosity of those who are, and actually practice what they preach. I know that many Catholic churches extend help to those in need, and I assume that other branches must as well. They usually help regardless of one's affiliation with the church, or whether one believes or not, so I would seek their help for gifts for your children, or food stuff. They just may come through. Best wishes.


    TerciopeloVerde

ONE DAY AT A TIME Mood
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
WELL, I AM EXHAUSTED .I HAVE BEEN IN PAIN WITH BACK,HIP AND LEG PROBLEMS.THE KIDS ARE HOME SICK WITH THE FLU AND I AM HOPEING NOT THE SWINE FLU.MY 16 YEAR OLD WAS HOME FOR TWO DAYS WITH ACHES AND PAINS AND A BAD COLD.HE TRIED GOING BACK TO SCHOOL TODAY.MY TWO LITTLEST ONES HAVE BEEN VERY SICK SINCE YESTERDAY WITH FEVERS OF 103.5..LUCKILY WITH BATHS AND TYLENOL I AM KEEPING THE FEVERS DOWN.THEY HAVE DOCTOR APPTS TOMMAROW.I AM TRYING TO JUST TAKE EVERYTHING ONE DAY AT A TIME AND TRYING TO FIGURE OUT OUT TO KEEP SUCH A LARGE FAMILY GOING WITH NO MONEY....THE FOOD PANTRYS ONLY HELP ONCE A MONTH AND DONT HARDLY GIVE ANYTHING,THE LOCAL AGENCIES DONT HAVE FUNDS TO HELP WITH HEATING OR ELECTRIC.AND I DONT EVEN WANT TO THINK ABOUT THE HOLIDAYS.RIGHT AT THIS MOMENT WE ARE OK WITH THE HEAT ,ELECTRIC AND HAVE A ROOF OVER OUR HEADS AND FOR THAT I AM VERY THANKFUL..OVER THE PAST YEAR I HAVE HAD SO MANY THINGS REPOED AND JUST TAKEN AWAY ,ALONG WITH MY SELF ESTEME AND SELF WORTH.I WORKED VERY HARD TO GIVE MY KIDS A DECENT LIFE AND TO PUT A ROOF OVER THIER HEADS AND TO SEE IT GO HAS BEEN VERY HEARTBREAKING...I LOVE MY KIDS AND HOUSE FULL OF PETS VERY MUCH AND THEY ARE DEPENDING ON ME TO TAKE CARE OF THEM AND EVEN THOUGH I AM BARELY TAKEING CARE OF MYSELF THESE DAYS I WILL JUST KEEP MOVEING FORWARD....MY DEAR FRIENDS HERE AT DS HAVE BEEN A GREAT INSPIRATION TO ME AND HAVE SHOWED ME UNCONDITIONAL FRIENDSHIP AND CAREING,SOMETHING I THOUGHT NO LONGER EXISTED..THANKS! JUST ONE DAY AT A TIME  IS ALL WE CAN DO....
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  1. IAmLisa

    It's great for you to keep a positive attitude under the circumstances! One day at a time is so true...
    Hope you get rid of the "bugs" around the house soon. I know they all feel so bad and that makes a mamma feel much worse for them.
    You are all in my prayers!


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  2. Amunoz

    Hey Tammy, I love fall but i hate the colds and flu associated with it. It's hard when kids get sick, but your doing what you have to. Your a great mom and friend! I'm wishing you and your family good health. One thing that can get through hard times is togetherness with the kiddos, it's nothing like doing something together, even if it's to bake delicious cookies, or a yummy meal. I've learned growing up that it wasn't the material things that i had or wanted that made good memories, it's all the times that i had with my parents. Take care! (((((((hugs)))))))


    Amunoz

  3. sandybeach101

    Dear Tammy, I am so sorry that you are suffrering with this. I know that you care very much about your family and pets and you are doing everything you can to help them and be there for them. You are a very brave and caring soul and you are in my heart. I hope that you and your children will feel better. Much love and hugs to you. Hugs.


    sandybeach101

YOU DONT KNOW ME... Mood
Sunday, October 11, 2009 | A Painful story
wELL TO THE PET LOVERS EVERYWHERE WHO THINK I AM A BAD PERSON AND THE IGNORANT WOMAN WHO TOLD ME IF I CANT AFFORD MY PETS I SHOULDNT HAVE THEM ...FUCK YOU BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW ME OR HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT KIND OF A PERSON I AM..OR FOR THAT MATTER WHAT I AM GOING THROUGH OR HAVE BEEN THROUGH....I HAVE WORKED HARD ALL MY LIFE ,TWO AND THREE JOBS IF NEEDED TO MAKE ENDS MEET.I SINGLE HANDEDLY CARE FOR FOUR KIDS AND HAVE ALWAYS HAD PETS BECAUSE I AM AN ANIMAL LOVER.I HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR ANIMALS THAN I DO PEOPLE.OVER THE YEARS I HAVE TAKEN IN SO MANY ANIMALS THAT WERE LEFT STARVEING AND OR ABUSED.I ONCE PICKED A PREGNANT CAT OFF THE ROAD THAT WAS THROWN FROM A MOVEING CAR.I TOOK HER TO THE VET WEEKLY FOR SALINE TREATMENTS AND HAND DELIVERED HER KITTENS BECAUSE SHE WAS TO BRAIN DEAD TO KNOW WHAT WAS HAPPENING.I RESCUED AN OLD CAT FROM KIDS ABUSEING IT AT A CONVINENT STORE THAT COULDNT WALK.WHEN TAKEING IT TO THE VET THEY ASKED WHAT I WANTED DONE WITH IT I SAID I WAS TAKEING HIM HOME.THEN I LOVED AND BATHED THE CAT EVERYDAY AND GAVE IT A FRESH BED BECAUSE IT WENT TO THE BATHROOM ON ITSELF.THE CAT WAS A LOVE BUG AND LIVED A FULL YEAR WITH ME.I RESCUED A PUPPY WHO WAS ON THE VERGE OF DEATH BECAUSE ITS MOTHER WAS STARVEING AND WHEN THE PUPPY WENT TO EAT THE MOTHER BIT IT IN THE HEAD.THE PUPPY HAD DAMAGE TO ITS ONE EYE AND LOST ITS SENCES ON ONE SIDE.WELL I NURSED HER BACK TO HEALTH AND CALLED HER ANGEL.SHE WAS MY BABY ,WHO LATER IN LIFE HAD TO TAKE SEIZURE MEDS DAILY.SHE LIVED WITH US FOR FIVE YEARS AND DIED LAST HALLOWEEN.A DAY DOESNT GO BY THAT I MISS HER.I LIVE IN THE COUNTRY AND ANIMALS GET DROPPED ALL THE TIME AND I TAKE THEM IN ,GIVE THEM A WARM ,LOVEING HOME WITH LOTS OF FOOD AND WATER ALWAYS AVAILABLE.ONE OLD GUY STAYED A WEEK WITH US BUT HE DIED IN A WARM LOVEING HOME INSTEAD OF ON THE SIDE OF THE ROAD IN FREEZEING TEMPERATURES WHERE SOMEONE LEFT HIM.THIS IS JUST A GLIMPSE AT THE ANIMALS THAT HAVE TOUCHED MY LIFE ....WELL, LIFE BEING AS SUCKY AS IT IS I WAS IN A CAR ACCIDENT THAT CHANGED MY LIFE AND I CANNOT WORK BUT YES I STILL HAVE A HOUSE FULL OF PETS THAT I HAVE HAD SINCE I WAS WORKING AND OH MY GOD I HAVE MY FOUR KIDS STILL ALSO.I GUESS MAYBE BECAUSE I CANT AFFORD THINGS NOW I SHOULD HAVE TAKEN ALL THE ANIMALS AND DROPPED THEM ON THE SIDE OF THE ROAD AND GIVEN MY KIDS UP FOR ADOPTION BECAUSE ACCORDING TO YOU I SHOULD NOT HAVE THINGS I CANNOT AFFORD!!!I DO THE VERY BEST I CAN TO KEEP ALL OF US GOING ,MY KIDS AND PETS I LOVE WITH ALL MY HEART....SO JUST BECAUSE MY PETS ARE NOW ILL AND I CANNOT AFFORD THE VET DOES NOT MAKE ME A TERRIBLE PERSON.MAYBE YOU SHOULD THINK TWICE BEFORE GIVEING SUCH HURTFUL ADVISE.GOOD FOR YOU THAT YOUR LIFE IS SO FUCKING PERFECT AND YOU ARE THE PERFECT PET OWNER.....
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  1. nevagiveup

    sorry but ur out of order to asked for advise i i gave u it cat flu can kill they must go to vets


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  2. sandybeach101

    Dear Tammy, I am really sorry you are going through all of this. Some people are not that understanding and they can hurt you. It isn't nice of people to judge you when you are trying to do a good job, I see this and if others do not then they are not being nice to you and I am very sorry about that. You know I am always on your side and think that you are a very good friend, person and I know you are doing your best and you have a very big heart so please do not let anyone hurt you. I am always on your side. Big hugs and lots of love.


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  3. naukana

    Sorry to hear about this. I think you are doing something great. It shows you have a compassionate heart. I hate people who just dump animals on the side of the road and don't even think nothing of it. It breaks my heart to see that. I'm glad there are people like you who care. I too lost a dog when he got very sick. I feel awful but had no money to take him to a vet and some of these vets want all the money up front. I know you are trying your best and so understand. All I could do is make him feel comfortable. It has been about 4 years since he is gone but still miss him terribly. Yes, it does suck when you are not in a position to help them but at least you are there trying. Circumstances happen and you have to make the best of it and so I understand what your saying.Hugs.


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  4. nift2b50

    You have so much love in you. Don't let this person's comments bring you down. The world is a better place because of you. I love animals and almost envy your ability to take in the hurt and vulnerable ones. Hugs.


    nift2b50

  5. lonelyinNY

    thanks friends for your comments and friendship,its truly appreciated.i apologize for my language that certainly isnt how i talk but i guess the anger,hurt and tears just took over.thanks again for your understanding...


    lonelyinNY

  6. ClaudiaD

    Tammy who ever told you that is a BUZZARD! A FUCKINBG HURTFUL SHAMEFUL PIECE OF SH#@@$@%$$!!!!!! You are one of the most caring individuals I have ever had the pleasure to meet! You obviously asked for some CONSTRUCTIVE ADVICE and to be told that by a supposed animal lover wellll she should be made to give up HER animals!!!!!!!!!


    ClaudiaD

  7. Amunoz

    Awww Tammy that person had no right to make bad comments about you.....What ever happened to this being a support site....more and more i see ppl on here bashing others,,,i've dealt with a few like that also....thank goodness there are plenty of good ppl on here like yourself to out weigh the bad. Pay no mind to the foolishness you know and your friends know how good of a person you are ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))


    Amunoz

  8. jsreichard

    You keep saving those animals. It is better they have a chance with you then die alone and unloved. You do what you can and the rest you leave to God. It is the fault of the person who left the animal to die in the first place. You are a Godsend!!!


    jsreichard

  9. ShannonDP

    I agree Tammy...some people need to think less with there a$$es and more with their brains UGH sorry, but U can't let the remarks of a big Ole Terd head get to you hon :)


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  10. SingerChic

    I think you're a wonderful animal lover! What would all of those animals have done with out you?!!! You've given so much of yourself and now when you don't have as much to give you are still giving the best you can!! I'm sorry I'm a little late reading this journal entry, but I'm glad I did...you are an somebody very special to do what you do for these animals!!


    SingerChic


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