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AndNicole 
11:30pm Wednesday
So the other night I went out with two friends I hadn't seen in awhile because one, Steph, lives in Cali now and Christy works pretty much everyday of the week. So we all went out to dinner at an irish pub/resturant and it was funny because we got offered free beer and I was like nope I don't drink and it seemed to make the mood a little duller. lol But we got to catch up on everything my friend, Steph, is now married to a marine (thats why they moved) and she was being so critical of my relationship with my boyfriend who is also in the military, it really pissed me off, I pretty much told her to fuck off, in a nice way, and if I needed her advice I'd ask. She was judging me on the fact that she said being with someone during deployment doesn't count, which is bullshit, yet she moved in with her current husband after like 2 weeks of knowing him and I've been dating my guy for almost a year.
But as the conversation went on my liver disease came up, my friend Christy knew about it already because shes layed back and I felt comfortable telling her specifically that it was Hepatitis C, but my friend Steph shes a bit more uptight, so I hadn't told her. Well, she asks "so what liver disease do you have?" and I go "Hepatitis C" and literally I see her step back and hold her stomach, now maybe she didn't do this on purpose, but I def noticed it. And there was no "how are you doing?" "are you okay?" it was "how'd you get it?" and I said Blood transfusion. She seemed a bit less uncomfortable after that being the reason. But then I tried talking to them about the tx and Steph starting talking about herself and I seriously felt like we were trying to one up each other with all our health problems. I mean I've known shes had kidney stones for awhile, but when I'm telling you about my liver disease, you can be more understanding, she wasn't.
I started talking about all the ways someone can get HCV and how common it is and she started talking about how sterile her dentist and doctors are, like she was trying to reassure herself that theres no way she could ever get HCV, which kinda pissed me off.
I think its funny that people are never like "are you okay" after you tell them its automatically "how'd you get it?" and I still to this day even after everything I know feel nervous about telling people I know about it. I would love for the first thing for someone to say when I tell them I have Hep C is "Are you okay? I'm sorry you have this disease." Not "how'd you get it?"
But the night did get better, because we got trapped in a parking lot and it made for a really funny story, the cops didn't think it was as funny as I did, but it was worth it.
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Glad you had a good time with your friends! You have a bit of an a temper don't you Andrea....lol, and I don't mean in a bad way. You are coming to the close of your tx journey as well, aren't you! YOu've done so incredibly well, on this! YOu kept on living a normal life, even on tx! YOu are one tough chick! YOur family must be so proud of you!
Keep on doing what you have been, because it works for you! Rock on Andrea!
rbm
With some people, its all about them. You probably didnt notice before because you werent sick. Some just have to be the center of attention. Good for you letting her know to keep her opinions to herself. When I was younger I didnt speak up for myself, now you cant shut me up. lol.
Barb99999999
You did her a favor by educating her. If she knew anything about hepC, she must know someone with it. Maybe later you'll forgive her insecurities & ignorant behavior. She hasn't evolved as much you have, yet. Lucky you to have a good friendship with Christy & she sounds like a keeper.
ptriss
Yeah it sounds like they were both trying to up you a little bit. Its like people ask "are you okay" but they never want to hear the answer nor do they want to. Stephanie sounds like a total bitch to be honest, I've never met her but I'm your sister so I can say that haha. Next time u have a girls night out invite me so we can vent on the way back home! Haha
Love you dude, don't let her stupid comments bother you. She's probably unhappy in her marriage and is taking it out on u. And how in the hell is that not being with someone and doesn't count? She's probably just embarassed of how she moved so fast w. Her guy & regrets it.
Love u,
the sis lisa
LisaAurora88
I for one agree with your sister.
You are definitely my kind of girl, when someone piss me off, I tell them....
Glad you took some time to enjoy life.
Love Mckenzie
One day at the time.
Mckenzie
Hey...well least you had some fun with your friends....dont u hate it when ur friends try to one up you like their problems are worse and they dont even care about urs? And ur one friend has no room to judge! i mean so if her man is deployed does that mean their relationship doesnt count when hes away??!!? lol thats just stupid. u know we are always here for you!!!!!!
Kekepania
Sometimes it is diffu=icult to reconnect with old friends.
Hopefully, she will now be more aware of HCV and more compassionate when/if it strikes her life.
TrapShootersRule
WOW... lets see how would she react if she found out she had HCV, probably not as strongly as you have handled it. That stuff pisses me off so much, she needs to get a clue. That is the exact reason I don't tell anyone about this.. i sware unless you have it YOU DON'T KNOW!!
scumm311