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  • About Me

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    Lonelylady08

    Female, 45
    SC, USA
    Member since September 11, 2008

    • About Me

      I am a stay at home mother of 5.I have inattentive ADD which wasn't diagnosed until a couple of years or so ago. I have been married 19 1/2 years and am considering divorcing my husband. I no longer love him and have spent most of our married life trying to make things better. He sometimes tries to make things better, but it only lasts for a week or two. I feel I have been emotionally abandoned and get no affection.

      I am a stay at home mother of 5.I have inattentive ADD which wasn't diagnosed until a couple of years or so ago. I have been married 19 1/2 years and am considering divorcing my husband. I no longer love him and have spent most of our married life trying to make things better. He sometimes tries to make things better, but it only lasts for a week or two. I feel I have been emotionally abandoned and get no affection.

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      From nothingleft2008 September 21

      I'm sorry. I've not been online for awhile.

      I hope you are ok.

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      From anglondn818 July 14

      CONGRATS ON YOU GOAL!!!!!

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      From lilredstang July 12

      Hi, i was married 25 years when we split i know what your going through patch things up to have them fall apart again keep your chin up

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      From Rodent May 28

      Yes, I have been missing (missing you as well :P ) I need to start checking back in more often.

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      Still having trouble with my personal messaging. Check on my journal for any updates.

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  • Goals

    Progress

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    Goal End Date is Nov 30, 08 364 days ago.

    Progress

    85 %

    Goal End Date is Nov 23, 08 371 days ago.

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    Goal End Date is Mar 8, 09 266 days ago.
    Goal Completed on Jul 14, 09
    Goal Completed on Jul 14, 09
    Goal Completed on Nov 3, 08
  • Support Groups

    • Close ADHD / ADD

      I was diagnosed a few years ago. Not sure how long. It has been a large problem in my marriage. I was very verbally abusive and I have little organizational skills. I often let it keep me frozen on moving forward. I have accepted it and no longer totally hate the fact that I have it. I am considering divorce and am afraid that I will not be able to support myself and kids, and keep things running as I will need to do when I'm on my own. I'm afraid I won't be able to endure the loneliness.

      Treatments

      Adderall Working / Worked
      I have had ups and downs using the adderall. I have had to up and later lower the dose. It is now working ok without too many side effects and I can take it or leave it if I want on any given day.
      Effexor Working / Worked
      Effexor has been working well for me for a long time. I started on it as a treatment for depression. I had to change from effexor xr to regular effexor because of cost. The regular effexor is available in generic. I do have some sleepiness with this.
      Cymbalta Working / Worked
      I have been on cymbalta for about a year now along with the effexor. I noticed a great difference when I started on it.
    • Close Breakups & Divorce

      I am thinking of divorcing my husband of 19 years. We have five kids. He has emotionally abandoned me and I get no affection. I have tried for over 13 years to make things better. I feel I am the only one who takes responsibility for the relationship. He seems unable to make any changes that keep in order to help things. I'm tired of being sad, miserable, lonely, and feeling that everything I do is wrong or everything wrong is my fault. My family has a lot of anger.

      Treatments

      Couples Counseling Not Working
      Have tried several times, but husband never continues more than 3 or 4 times and doesn't do what is asked for long.
      Forgiveness Somewhat Helpful
      Until recently I have been able to forgive. Currently, I am very angry that his actions (or lack of action) has gotten us to this point and still I am the one that has to suffer the stress of deciding to leave or not.
      Love Not Working
      I have within this current year lost all love for him. I'm tired of getting my hopes up and being disappointed.
      Pets Somewhat Helpful
      We have a zoo full of pets, but they can't talk to you, support you, or encourage you.
      Psychotherapy Somewhat Helpful
      I am currently in counceling. It has been somewhat helpful, but is doing more to give me strength to decide what I should do and I hope will give me strength to do what I need to do.
      Reading Somewhat Helpful
      I have read a zillion books on a zillion thaings and put many things to work. They have made changes in my life, but haven't made any changes in the marriage that have stuck.
      Support from Friends & Family Too Soon to Tell
      I don't have a good support system in family or friends. I have only told one member of my family and the friends who know, are hoping things will work out.
      Talking Not Working
      I have tried talking it out with my husband. It is impossible to solve any problems because he takes offense at anything I tell him no matter how small a problem it is. This is a big reason why I'm wanting to leave. If we can't discuss problems they will not get resolved. He only wants to put his head in the sand and hope things will go away.
      Time Not Working
      I have put up with being alone in a group of people for over 13 years. It hasn't gotten better, only worse. I can't waste the rest of my life waiting to be happy.
    • Open Depression

      I am the mother of five kids and am in a bad marriage. I have been treated for depression for around maybe 5 years. I don't remember when it started. I am doing much better now, but still have times of depression.

      Treatments

      Cymbalta Working / Worked
      I have been on cymbalta for about a year now. It seemed to perk me up when I started taking it. Seems to still be working.
      Effexor Working / Worked
      I have been on effexor for years. It makes me a little sleepy when I first take it, but it has been helping me.
      Lexapro Not Working
      Tried it and it worked for a little while then had to stop because it was making me too sleepy.
      Psychotherapy Working / Worked
      I am currently in therapy. It does help.
      Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful
      I do not have a good support system. My friends have been helpful.
      Wellbutrin Not Working
      Soon after I started taking wellbutrin, I had really wierd headaches. I don't know if it was really related to the med or if it was something else.
      Zoloft Not Working
      I used it for a while, but it stopped being effective and the dose couldn't be raised anymore.
    • Open Hypogonadism

      My husband has hypogonodism. I am in a support group for spouses of those who have it and may be able to contribute helpful information. Even though the group is for women, we have some men members who are very informed and helpful.

    • Open Time Management

      I am ADD. I have no sense of time whatsoever. Creates problems for keeping up with life.

    • Open Parenting 'Tweens (9-12)

      I am the mother of 5. My youngest are 9 and 11. Wish I'd had a support group in dealing with the other 3.

      Treatments

      Patience Somewhat Helpful
      It is always helpful, but hard to have sometimes.
    • Open Parenting Teenagers (12-18)

      I have a large family and 3 of my kids have entered the teen years. I have a 16, 14 and 13 year old.

      Treatments

      Patience Working / Worked
      Works well when I don't loose it.
    • Open Asthma
      Type: Exercise-Induced Asthma

      My daughter has exercised induced asthma. she was diagnosed two years ago.

      Treatments

      Advair Not Working
      Worked for a while, but had to change
      Albuterol Not Working
      Did not work
      Breathing Exercises Working / Worked
      Has helped a good bit. At least it keeps her calmer when she does have an attack
      Flovent Not Working
      Did not work
      Foradil Not Working
      Did not work
      Singulair Working / Worked
      Is working
      Symbicort Working / Worked
      Is currently working
      Xopenex Working / Worked
      Is currently working
    • Open Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction

      My husband has ed and I have been in a support group that has given me much information that could be helpful to those here

    • Open Menopause

      I'm 44 and in the premenopausal zone.

    • Open Anxiety

      I have MVP which causes anxiety. I also have ADD which can contribute to anxiety as well.

      Treatments

      Breathwork Working / Worked
    • Open Diets & Weight Maintenance

      Lonelylady08 hasn’t entered any details for this support group.
    • Open Fitness Goals
      Type: Improve overall fitness

      I need to loose a little weight, but mostly just want to get fit & healthy.

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