Backsliding!!
October 19, 2009 10:18pm
Well, I tried to jump back into a weightlifing routine a couple weeks ago, but was a bit too "gung ho," and ended up reinjuring my lower …
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sadderbutwiser 
7:59pm, November 12, 2009
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About Me
sadderbutwiser
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About Me
I came here in 2008 mainly to deal with post-divorce emotions, while sober. I've recovered from the divorce and am now focusing on growing emotionally and spiritually, through my faith in Jesus Christ and the 12 Steps of AA. I am dealing with a job layoff (no fault of my own) and difficult finances, as I try to redefine my new life, both as a single person and a follower of Christ.
I came here in 2008 mainly to deal with post-divorce emotions, while sober. I've recovered from the divorce and am now focusing on growing emotionally and spiritually, through my faith in Jesus Christ and the 12 Steps of AA. I am dealing with a job layoff (no fault of my own) and difficult finances, as I try to redefine my new life, both as a single person and a follower of Christ.
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Interests
Motorcycle riding, running, weightlifting, tennis, carpentry/home improvements, music and iPods.
Motorcycle riding, running, weightlifting, tennis, carpentry/home improvements, music and iPods.
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Recent Activity
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5 hugs given, 1 hug received
Saturday
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sadderbutwiser gave awakendwoman a hug 9:35pm
Hi Laurie, you deserve a hug just for being you!…
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sadderbutwiser gave Bailey42 a hug 9:34pm
Hi, it's Ken! I hope you're doing well. I've been so busy the past few weeks I don't have time to be…
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sadderbutwiser gave Bailey42 a hug 9:33pm
Hi, it's Ken! I hope you're doing well. I've been so busy the past few weeks I don't have time to be…
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sadderbutwiser gave SBGM a hug 9:29pm
Hey there, how's it going? What is a defensive driving weekend?…
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sadderbutwiser gave Wordweaver a hug 9:27pm
Hi there, I saw on a forum that you're a reporter ... I'm a former reporter. Just curious, where is "ZAF"?…
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Addicted to approval?
September 27, 2009 11:52am
One of my online friends on DS, awakendwoman, posed a question in one of her journals that made me think. She asked, What makes you smile and …
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Finally got baptized!
September 2, 2009 10:16am
Well, it finally happened - last Sunday, I was baptized at my church! When I say finally, it's because I was saved almost a year ago, and my …
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Getting more consistent with running
August 9, 2009 12:26am
Well, I'm settling into an exercise routine of sorts. I've been running 4-5 miles, three times a week. Lately, I've been …
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Happy Wednesday
Moment of Peace
Hope u r having a festive wk & a nice veteran's day. Did your back finally totally heal?I went riding w/ my husband the other evening. It was dark out so I ended up burning my ankle on the exhaust. I guess that's what I get 4 not listening & wearing shorts w/ flipflops. Live & learn. Hope life is treating u well. Is it cold where u live? Best Wishes!
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Thank you for the message of support. I think others can see it as well. Why does it always take so long for us to see it? Have a safe and happy Halloween and a great weekend.
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Long story.. thx for the hug. :)
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Shout Out
Glad 2 hear your back is getting better. My husband has been riding his bike 2. I guess I'll have 2 wait til next spring 2 take the motorcycle class b/c I was sick when my husband went & they don't offer them nov-feb. I think that is awesome that people take x out of their life 2 participate fund raising 4 others especially children. Best Wishes.
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Support Groups
Close Breakups & Divorce
I separated from my wife in 2007 after 6 years of marriage, after admitting I didn't really love her, but that it "seemed like the right thing to do" at the time (our courtship happened very quickly). I had severe guilt for putting my ex-wife through such intense pain; the only silver lining is that we didn't have children. Our divorce became final in Dec. 2008; we are on friendly terms now. I want to learn from this so I don't repeat the same relationship patterns (I'm a "people-pleaser").
Treatments
- Forgiveness Working / Worked
- By accepting Jesus Christ into my life, I have been able to let go of bitterness, resentment, guilt, self-pity and so many negative emotions following my divorce.
- Reading Working / Worked
- I read "The Purpose-Driven Life" by Rick Warren and it has helped me grow closer to God and Christ, and, as a result, heal and move forward with my life. Also am into the Bible, and any books that help me grow as a Christian.
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- I am fortunate to have many good friends to talk to.
- Support Groups Working / Worked
- I joined a local DivorceCare support group and it was one of the best things I have done. I highly recommend it!
Close Alcoholism
I was a periodic or binge drinker, mainly in response to stress, but my drinking spiraled out of control during my divorce in 2008, and I was definitely powerless over alcohol and my life was unmanageable. At that point, it was the grace of God that got me sober. Once I got sober, I began a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Now, I don't miss the drink, and I look to Christ, not alcohol, to cope with life.
Treatments
- 12 Step Program Working / Worked
- AA is the granddaddy of 12 Step programs. I'm just starting my fourth step, where I began to clear out all the emotional junk from my past that I never dealt with.
- AA Meetings Working / Worked
- The fellowship of AA is awesome; I've met many caring and wise people. The meetings put me in a better mood 99 percent of the time! I also joined a group and have a "job" in that group so I stay active.
Open Healthy Relationships
I'm not in a relationship currently, but I'm taking some time to work on my emotional and spiritual growth so I can have a healthy relationship. In the meantime, I'd like to date.
Open Loneliness
Basically, I'm going through "affection withdrawal," lol. I was not one of those people who quickly jumped into a relationship after a divorce, but I live alone and miss the company and affection of a woman. I have plenty of friends and am active, but would be nice to have someone to snuggle up with on the couch.
