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Fantonme 
4:44pm
I swear everyone around me is either a new mother or pregnant. This weekend my family is holding a baby shower for my cousin and my cousins wife. One is due in Nov, the other on Xmas day. Everyone is pressuring me about going to this damn baby shower. I thought I was going to be okay with it. But this week has been pretty rough. They are getting ready to put up Joey's headstone and reality has started to hit me like a ton of bricks.
Well finally today, my brother said - Did you remember that you have a baby shower to go to this weekend? I replied with I don't think I am going, I am just gonna have their gifts mailed out. He said - Really??? You have to remember this is for Marcie (My 1st cousin) ? I finally snapped and said Well you have to remember that I just lost my baby!! I don't want to go play baby games and I don't want to go watch them open all their baby gifts. I can't do that right now... it's just too hard.
Later he apologized. But come on - Am I just being bitchy and oversensitive ???? It hasn't even been 2 mths since I lost Joey!!!! I don't want to be the one person crying at a baby shower. It's not fair to me or them. I don't want them to feel like they have to watch what they say or do. They have every right to be excited about their babies!!! I am excited for them. But I just can't put myself through this right now. Sorry I just had to VENT!
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I wouldn't be able to go either. I think you are being totally rational. We are supposed to be careful with ourselves, especially right now. That means don't walk into a situation that you know will make you break down. Big Hugs to you hun.
mommyoflily
I wouldn't be able to go either, I think it would be torture. You are perfectly in your right to not want to put yourself through that and everyone should understand. AND if they don't, they will get over it. They should also appreciate the fact that you don't want to go because you want them to have a good time and not have to worry about upseting you. You are not being bitchy or oversensitive, you are a mother who just lost her baby.
MRNmom
I still can't go th baby showers and I am due to one! You are not being bitchy, you are doing what you can handle right now! Only you know what's best for you hunny!
NickNicksmommykitkat
We completely understand you!! You are right, people don't get it! A baby shower is not a good thing for you to attend right now!
CarysDaniel
I've avoided baby showers too. You are not out of line at all.
Leosmommy
I still cant really go to babyshowers or be near pregnant bellys. It still hurts so much. It is way too soon for people to expect you to go.I dont understand what they are thinking.Take care of yourself this is your life,your son,your heartbreak.I am so sorry people dont get it.I agree with many of the other moms saying you know what you can handle and what you cannot.I pushed myself a bit in the begininig to do things I didnt feel I was ready to do and I and everyone around me ended up regretting it.
katemc