tlscmt97's Journal

September 10, 2009
Well my divorce was finalized as of August 31st.  I am waiting to get the bill for his attorney and see what the damage is.  My attorney sent me my copy of the paperwork, but not sure what the judge decided so I'm going to call my attorney next week and find out.  I haven't heard from him for a couple weeks and I'm grateful. 
I offered to sell him my car, which I’m not driving anymore, but now I don’t know if I want to.  It was the first car I bought and paid for on my own and I actually met my ex-husband the day after I got the car.  So it has a lot of memories of him attached to it, which is one reason I don’t want to keep it.  I love the car and I hate to sell it, but I kind of need the money and it’s taking up space.  I especially hate to sell it to him because even though he would be buying it, I would still be helping him out.  And I don’t think he deserves any more of my help.  I think I’ve given him more than enough help during our 9 years together.  So I’m still undecided on selling it to him.
When I offered it to him, he talked to his mom about buying it.  He called me a few days later and said that his mom didn’t have all the money to give me at one time, but she would pay me part and then make payments.  He said that his mom had bought him a weight set so she didn’t have all of it.  I find that very hard to believe because his mom makes good money and her house is paid off.  I told him that I wouldn’t transfer the car into her or his name until I got all the money.  He said that his mom didn’t trust me so it was payments or wait until he got out.  I told him if I still have the car when he got out I’d sell it to him.  I can’t believe that they think I’m stupid enough to transfer the title before I have all the money.  Or that I would trust them to pay me once it was transferred, especially since his mom doesn’t trust me.  I was so mad after I talked to him, but I was proud of myself for not giving in to him.
He asked me again if I had someone else.  I told him no, that the divorce wasn’t even final yet.  He asked me if I had someone in mind already and I said no.  He said something about me already lying to him.  Guess he was talking about me saying I would wait until he got out to let him get his speakers and amps out of the car and let him go thru the tools and then not waiting.  I told him that it was best for me to have his stuff gone.  I am still letting him come by after he gets out to get whatever I missed.  I wanted him to spend the least amount of time around me as possible. 

I consider him a hassle more than anything now.  I get so pissed when I think about all the money I’ve spent paying for lawyers and fines and court costs and time taken off from work and the money I paid out for the apartment and the interest I’ve paid on loans and maxing out my credit cards to feed his habits and draining our savings when he wasn‘t working.  I get mad at myself for allowing it to happen, but I get more angry with him for putting me thru that.  For putting me in danger.  For being so selfish and immature.  For being such a prick!