You sound so frustrated, and I'm sorry to hear that.
I know that it sucks when other people don't seem to want to listen. When that happens to me, I feel like they don't respect me - not because they don't want to hear the information I have to share- but because they don't think I"m qualified or provided any credentials. It is so frustrating when this happens, because it's almost like doctors and specialists are the only ones whose opinions are worth listening to - the rest of us don't really count.
There are people out there who do get something from being in pain. Some people like to play the role of a patient so that can get cared for. I'm sure there are people who are in pain and because of that fact, other people's expectations of them may have been lowered. It doesn't mean that they can't do certain things, its just that other people don't think they can. It kind of gets you off the hook. And I could see being in a lot of pain, believing that I'[d tried everything, that there is no answer and that the situation is hopeless.
The thing about offering advice is that you are offering it. It's sort of like a gift. You give it to them, and you aren't expecting anything back. There's no strings, no fee, no gain for you, except the fact that you were able to share your knowledge with someone. You can HOPE someone will follow your advice, and that it will help them. But you can't make them do it. I'd encourage you to continue to offer it as a gift.
The thing about giving someone a gift is that you can't make the recipient use it a certain way. I remember giving my son a computer to use for college studies. As soon as it was out of the box, he was talking about the great games he was going to put on it. That was not what we had given it to him for, so we were disappointed. My husband got very angry and wanted to make him use it for college only. My response was that we had given it as a gift, we needed to let it be a gift. It was very hard to do, to let go of the computer, and let go of our expectations... Not only did he play games on it, he did his homework on it. And when it quit working, he took it apart, and learned to fix it. (I freaked when he took it apart!)
I'd like to encourage you to continue to share information, if you can give it freely and joyfully, which it seems to me, from what I've seen, that you have been doing. If the recipient wants to choose to disregard what you are saying, don't take it personally. If there is disrespect going on, I would stop offering advice to whoever the specific person it.
"Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces." - Matt. 7:6
true, very true... but I was judging people and I thought that I was being a bit mean in the process. I don't think it is all that nice of me to judge people or to be mean in the process so I deleted the journal entry. I felt like some people were wallowing in their pain and misery and they didn't seem to want to get fixed.
I for one, would love to be fixed or cured of the pain I feel each and everyday. It has been a long 3 1/2 years and in that time I lost the abilty to drive trucks, destroyed a marriage and have depression. If only I had said " No" to the route change that day, I might still be normal or uninjured. They say things happen for a reason and I am still trying to figure out the reason to mine. ?????
You are a strong person and just trying to help others. You are a very wonderful person. Dont ever change. You are making the world a better place.
star2000
You sound so frustrated, and I'm sorry to hear that.
I know that it sucks when other people don't seem to want to listen. When that happens to me, I feel like they don't respect me - not because they don't want to hear the information I have to share- but because they don't think I"m qualified or provided any credentials. It is so frustrating when this happens, because it's almost like doctors and specialists are the only ones whose opinions are worth listening to - the rest of us don't really count.
There are people out there who do get something from being in pain. Some people like to play the role of a patient so that can get cared for. I'm sure there are people who are in pain and because of that fact, other people's expectations of them may have been lowered. It doesn't mean that they can't do certain things, its just that other people don't think they can. It kind of gets you off the hook. And I could see being in a lot of pain, believing that I'[d tried everything, that there is no answer and that the situation is hopeless.
The thing about offering advice is that you are offering it. It's sort of like a gift. You give it to them, and you aren't expecting anything back. There's no strings, no fee, no gain for you, except the fact that you were able to share your knowledge with someone. You can HOPE someone will follow your advice, and that it will help them. But you can't make them do it. I'd encourage you to continue to offer it as a gift.
The thing about giving someone a gift is that you can't make the recipient use it a certain way. I remember giving my son a computer to use for college studies. As soon as it was out of the box, he was talking about the great games he was going to put on it. That was not what we had given it to him for, so we were disappointed. My husband got very angry and wanted to make him use it for college only. My response was that we had given it as a gift, we needed to let it be a gift. It was very hard to do, to let go of the computer, and let go of our expectations... Not only did he play games on it, he did his homework on it. And when it quit working, he took it apart, and learned to fix it. (I freaked when he took it apart!)
I'd like to encourage you to continue to share information, if you can give it freely and joyfully, which it seems to me, from what I've seen, that you have been doing. If the recipient wants to choose to disregard what you are saying, don't take it personally. If there is disrespect going on, I would stop offering advice to whoever the specific person it.
"Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces." - Matt. 7:6
SahKonteic
I wish you wouldn't have deleted this entry. This is YOUR journal after all. You need to be able to express your thoughts and share your feelings too.
SahKonteic
true, very true... but I was judging people and I thought that I was being a bit mean in the process. I don't think it is all that nice of me to judge people or to be mean in the process so I deleted the journal entry. I felt like some people were wallowing in their pain and misery and they didn't seem to want to get fixed.
hollidayddd
I for one, would love to be fixed or cured of the pain I feel each and everyday. It has been a long 3 1/2 years and in that time I lost the abilty to drive trucks, destroyed a marriage and have depression. If only I had said " No" to the route change that day, I might still be normal or uninjured. They say things happen for a reason and I am still trying to figure out the reason to mine. ?????
kazual