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chriscoxrox 
11:18am, October 16, 2009
One of the first friends I made here at ds has said some things to me that kind of stung. I was shocked like a slap in the face and still am. I asked what was up and got the answer of the site was stale and I'm moving on. Just got bored there. Someone also had called them names and I guess started a little trouble. Not my business but I wanted to make sure they were ok. Well that was a suprise to me and then they took the wind out of me a little more. They told me that they didn't think it was right for me to promote my books or music on the site. Now they have supported me from the beginning and even promoted my stuff for me. I don't get it. I love what I do and have fought through all of the ms bs to make music and write my book. It has been a major labor of love through the pain and depression to get stuff done. I want others to know about me. Of course I want people to hear my music and read my book but no one is going to know about any of it if I don't say something. I'm not a famous author or singer. I don't have a tv show or a big company promoting me. I am one man with ms and a story, just like everyone here. I am proud of what I have done. I fought to get to where I am. If you don't agree than ignore or delete something. If something you don't like is on the tv then you can turn the channel. I am the only way that I am going to get my music and story out there. If some of you like it and pass it on that is awesome. If you don't like it or don't care about it, that's fine too. But to act like my friend and support the things I do only to wake up one day and decide that I shouldn't tell anyone here about it slaps me a little. This is the place where other people like me are!! If I can't tell my brothers and sisters with ms about what I have done bad and good, I don't know where I can share my story. I do have questions, answers and general love for people here. This is an example of letting someone into your life, caring about them and finding out it wasn't a real friendship at all. Sorry if I offended anyone else.
CC
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I really don't understand some people..How is you talking about your music and book hurting anybody?? Is somebody forcing these people to read the stuff?? I don't get it. Very lame, in my opinion.
Keep doing what you're doing, and keep your head up Chris! :)
JennyLove
My email is chriscoxrox@live.com if you would like to stay in touch. I think that I'm going to take a break for a while from the boards here.
chriscoxrox
I would like to stay in touch Chris. I think a lot of people on here just don't have a life. I think you have done wonderful and if you can help others out here with your book and music, that's great! Don't let the negative people get you down. Screw them. I'm sure you have touched a lot of people on here who do appreciate what you are doing. Hugs, Kristy
gypsyways57
Chris!! Don't you for one second let someone make you feel guilty about sharing your book and music on here!!!! I think it is WONDERFUL you are determined enough struggling with MS to push on and do the things you love to do and it is a GREAT inspiration to me and I know many others!!! Please don't let a so called friend discourage you!!! We all love and appreciate you!!!! :)
Kittyeyes13
Jealousy? I think so. I live my life thru all my friends on line. I used to sing in a gospel quartet but can no longer breathe correctly. Still love to listen & usually try to sing along. LOL!!!
You just keep on doing what you are doing. And remember me in my wheelchair sitting in front of the a/c staring out at the world.
kellygrn
Yah, just jealous. Create! it's the only joy in life, I think.
Humunculus
Chris, there jealous and we love what you are doing. Don't let them win. Just keep on with what you are doing, you are doing it for you and to share with others who do understand. Stay on here. Hugs with Love
LeeAnn
You've been such a huge help to me in the short time I've been on here. I agree with everyone else that you shouldn't let jealous people make you feel that you need to leave. We all have enough drama in our lives, screw those with petty bullshit ideals. You are a vital part of this group with the information and caring heart us newbies need. Positive people such as yourself are so rare in this jaded world. Don't let them drag you down to their level.
Much respect and love,
Kim
KimT75
Dear heart,
Unfortunately so many "no good" people on mother Earth, people who leave their lives in misery and they hate the fact that someone creates, does something nice for themselves and others, and just simply being happy and love life despite of MS or other health issues.
I really don't know what the problem is, but i read your post and left me with bitter taste in my mouth b/c I feel this board is loosing such a nice person only because someone hurt your feelings...
This is sad since nobody here wants to say good bye to you, Chris and I think we all didn't deserve to loose you as our friend; maybe better idea would be just to ignore someone who is less fortunate to become a musician, author or just a good person?
Best of luck to you, stay the way you are and don't change...
Love and blessings, Mol
Moldova
Not What? It is WHATEVER!!! (or as the kid on Camp Rock said, whatever major loser!) These are the times when you figure out who is real. I had a co worker take a picture of me with a sign so it will be coming your way when I can find the darn USB cord to download it....
Hope you stick around with us!
Hugs
momtotwo
I've loved learning about you. I am a fellow Texan and enjoy knowing how others are dealing with or without the heat. It's nice to know others are surviving too! lol
I understand you taking a break, but look forward to seeing you and your career grow!
candaceschultz
i really hate to see this happen to you chris. my mother has the ms but i have seen the struggles u have to endure and she loves music like u and u know if someone is that immature and bully than just kick them out of your life. that is not needed and not a true friend. u sure dont need that kind of stress with ur ms.. come back when u feel upp to it again friend.
stillhere2008
Chris - I can see this person really hurt you, and that pisses me off; there is nothing wrong with you promoting your book here - it is about your struggle with MS - and this is a site for MS sufferers! I bought your book and enjoyed it; I haven't listened to your music yet, but I plan to. There's an old saying - "Don't let the bastards get you down." And on DS, there are MANY bastards. Just stick with your friends. I am one, and all the others who write you (you have quite a following?!
Take a break, if you must, and know that you have a lot of friends here that got inspiration from your book, and your life. Keep making that music - it will keep your sould alive - and bring joy to others!
Namaste!
Sheila
shevan
hey,sorry to see ya go.
Expect a "friend"request on live from me.
Hope that'll be cool.
As far as whom ever said that shizznit to you is wrong...Dead wrong,so just keep it in mind.
Peace and good luck on your venture.
Oh by the way my msn id is...
19dan71@live.ca
hopefully we'll be able too stay in touch.
Peace
hypochallenged
Personally, I'm jealous. I'd love to have the creative skills you have to be able to express myself in a constructive way and (from what I understand) help other people in the process. I wish you well with the career. I keep being told to look for the silver lining and you being inspired to write/create through this illness can certainly be considered that way, even if you have to deal with the symptoms to get there.
Take strength from the lovely messages you have received here. There are some good guys here. Some really good guys.
Take care of yourself and be comfortable - particularly with your own decisions. If a break is what you need, you know your real friends will be there for you when you look for them.
All the best
x
joblet
Sorry a person of that nature could scare you away. My advice ---if you leave, you are letting them win. If you stay, you look like a hero, who is standing up for himself. Being able to write books and music is a gift from God, do not let it go to waste. Why not make a name for yourself. Having this disease really sucks and you are expressing your feelings in your own way. Basically, look at all the people who do care about you and are interested in what you have to say. Don't give up, stay and delete this person to keep them from seeing your messages and etc. Is there someone you could report this too and have them booted from this wonderful place to be? We are all behind you----you have more friends then foes.
Punky1
Chris you're part of the community here and I'm happy and proud that you are able to produce/create such wonderful things. Keep up the good work and remember one voice is not the speaking for everyone.
samzlost
Chris~u rock~ don't give them any power over you just block and delete them and accept they were not really a friend, A jealous vindictive one at that. YOU can share anything on here music, book, any help on ms. they can go pound sand if they dont like it.
Sure take a siesta brake if u must but many will be here on line. You have inspired many, you are sweet, worthwhile and deserve much love and respect and dont accept anything less. Ignore the fools dont sink to their level and rise above and only let it make you be MORE successful!!!! (((hugs)))
briar
You can't leave you are my infusion buddy! I like what you have been doing with your life, This person is not worth you getting stressed over! Take Care
sandi43
Chris, I know how you feel. I too have come here for support and friendship. I have met some nice people on here, and you are one of the best!!! There are some people who seem to thrive on being the insensitive, mean, assholes that they are. That is why I am taking a break from DS. Everyone on my friends list is special to me, the rest were not very genuine, and I deleted them.
Like you, I did not come on DS to fight or argue, or insult. Some people have a bad ass attitude and are just plain jealous. Which is totally "their" problem. They are probably jealous of many people and they need help.
No one needs the negative vibes or words from these people, in their lives.
As for you sharing your music and book with us here on DS, I think it is wonderful! And the benefits are going for a good cause! I mean hello???? Yep, it's gotta be jealousy.
You have a warm and loving soul, and try not to let this jerk squash your spirit. You are beautiful on the inside and the outside. Some people just rot in my opinion.
Do you believe in Karma? They'll get theres one day.
I have your e-mail and i've sent you mine. Please stay in touch with me Chris.
I care!!! and most of all "Keep on Keepin on"!!!!
Love ya!!!
jewell2
I am sorry this happened Chris. I know I have not posted much on the site but I have enjoyed reading and staying up with news. I have found the fact that you still have your music and even wrote a book inspiring for those with MS to keep going in their life, especially with the things they love.
I am an artist also but my skill is with a brush and oil paint. Most anyone with a business, hobby, etc. ends up talking about such because it is part of who they are or a big part of their lives. I don't see it as promoting, just sharing that part of your life.
There is a yahoo chat group I am a member of that is so much fun. The group is for ppl with the illnesses of CFS/Fibro/& MS. We could use more ppl with MS on it so email if you would like to check it out and I will invite you in the room (it is by invitation only).
We get crazy with all sorts of topics! tinmoon00@yahoo.com
tinmoon
CHRIS
WE HAVE ENJOYED ALL THAT YOU HAVE SHARED, AND IF SOMEONE DOESNT LIKE IT...THEN MOVE ON...SOME PEOPLE THINK THEY ARE THE MONITORS FOR EVERYONE ON HERE, I HAVE ENJOYED WHAT YOU HAVE SHARED, AND I HAVE SHARED YOUR INFO WITH OTHERS..SO I WISH YOU THE BEST.BUT PLZ JUST TAKE A BREAK, DONT QUIT DS, OR STOP MOVING FORWARD....I UNDERSTAND IT ALL, TRUELY...DONT TRUST EVERYONE!!!
C U SOON
HOPEFULLY
JAKCIE
jav
remember the tv channel analogy....life is alot like that and some people just need to get a grip...it's not all about them...I take lots of breaks from DS and have seen alot of great ppl go....it's a shame...it's not like MS is trying to screw one single person over for percentage point but we with MS are??? good luck in whatever you decide!
CASMIRA
Chris
I am sorry that you have been hurt by bitter, angry and jealous people. I think what you are doing it great! Share your story, your book, your music. You are a positive person who is making the best out of having a bad disease. Some people who have MS, or other diseases, become bitter, negative people, instead of using their person struggles for good. You are a role model for people to see that there is life after being diagnosed with MS. Keep doing what you are doing. Like someone else commented, "Don't Let The Bastards Get You Down'!!! Stay positve, stay with us!!!! Blessing to you!
MSKC
WTH? I wish you wouldn't go anywhere - supporting each other here is what we do - if that includes promoting your book & music because you happen to have a book & music, so be it, you friends are behind you.
Whomever in the 1st place takes issue w/ that & then doesn't have the sense or good grace to keep it to themselves ... well, maybe they need our support too while they do some work on their own inner peace ... whatever ... just pls don't let the silliness of another have any bearing on what you do oir where you hang, eh?
Hope all is well w/ ya - I'll be touching base w/ ya when I get back to my own computer - have another place to tell you about that sounds pretty cool for MS'rs too :-) (no unicorns or rainbows, they say :)
Pura Vida!
JaniceKay
Hon...i have been here since i belive 2006 now...smile..i have seen alot of people come and go...and alot of people argue..friendships form...friendships end...sigh...and people lost....
you are allowing one person to chase you away from all your friends here??....you have alot of support here..and you offer alot of support....
are you really going to give one person the power to take all that away from you??...becuase if you leave...that is what you are doing.....
and that....is not the type of person i thought you were...sigh
luv
heather
heather1
Thanks everyone for your kind words. I just back from L.A. and have been reading everything here on my journal. You guys are awesome. I will be writing a new journal entry soon. THANKS AGAIN.
chriscoxrox