brent72's Journal

     Well I may have offended and lost most of my friends here. I used to get messages and hugs every day from many of my friends. Not so much the last few days. I hope it is just because of the Holidays and other personal business they are all dealing with. I am afraid though that it may have something to do with a thread I started in Healthy Sex. I read a thread someone had started about Beastiality. I was so impressed with the kindness and thought that most of the responents expressed that I decided to see if they would have the same kindness to a discussion about Pediphiles. I guess I new that starting a thread like that might upset a lot of people just because of the subject. However that was one of my reasons for doing it. I wanted to find out what people would say. I wanted to try and get people to thinking about not only the victims but also the people that have been falsely accused of this type of activity. I new that someone would make a jump to the conclusion that I must be a pediphile sence I started the thread. I was not disappointed in that assumption. One person did suggest that. I did however receive many posts that were what I was hoping for. People that understood that there are many out there that have been wrongly accused and convicted. Posts that were very thoughtful and non-judgmental. I tried to ushure everyone that I was not a pediphile but that probably did not work for everyone. I also refered to a friend here about her son. In retrospect I probably should not have done that. I did not mean to break her confidence. I just was trying to make a point. I probably should have worded it much different though and not made a referance to anyone here. At any rate I hope I did not really offend anyone of my friends here and that they are just busy and don't have the time to send messages and hugs like they usually do.

     I am doing much reading about falsely accused sex offenders and it is very troubling what I am reading and finding out. I new from my time with the Sheriff's Dept. that it is very easy to be charged with something that you did not do. All you have to do is be in the wrong place at the wrong time, or have someone upset at you. I did ont realize though just how easy and common it is for people to be charged and convicted wrongfully for sex crimes. Espesially young people. We really need to change our laws and our societies thinking about sex offenses and child molestation. If someone is guilty then yes we need to throught the book at them. However I think we may be going to far. I am sure that there are many people out there that have been guilty of sex offenses that are really not "bad people" that deserve to be punished and shuned for the rest of their lives. Our society seems to be over zealous about punishing people for sex crimes. We need to learn that there are many people involved in these types of crimes, and that they are not all the same in severaty. We should not crusify all with the same degree of punishment. There are different levels and degrees of this type of crime like other crimes. Don't get me wrong if a small child is violently raped then the "GUILTY" one should be hung by the balls or worse. BUT we need to be sure that the accused is Guilty. Not just fly off the handle and assume that this person did everything the news reports they have until all the evendence is in and that person has a chance to explain before a jury of his/her peors.