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Gemini613 
I have to admit, I do miss the contact I had with the Breakup and Divorce support group. When I check back in, I'm delighted to find a lot of my friends still on the forum. I am tempted, at times, to join in the discussions but I worry that some posters would find my 'reconciled' status a little hard to take.
So for the last six months or so, I've tried connecting with other forums - one was a marriage building forum. Several politcal forums. For some reason, none of them have the same supportive or friendly feel this place did. On other forums, people seem quick to attack....especially when it comes to politics. But even on the marriage forum it often felt like a hostile place. Sigh. Guess I'm just feeling a little sorry for myself.
On the topic of regrets. Really, I have none except for the pain we put our son through - but, hey, 'no pain, no gain' as they say.
Leaving my husband was the best thing I could have done. I feel certain, had I not done so, things would still be pretty bad between us. Taking that big, awful, heart-wretching step was what saved my marriage. But you have to mean it. I never planned to go back but then it felt like the right thing to do. I wish all my friends here at DS the best no matter where life takes them. You just never know....
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It's kind of like the old saying... "If you love something let it go. If it comes back to you it's yours forever. If it does not, it was never yours to begin with."
I always appreciated your insight and advice so much when I was struggling. I think it's great that you reconciled. Since that is what I wanted more than anything back then, I would have loved to get advice from someone who is in the place where you are now.
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