Journal

I try to be kind to strangers and friends. With my family I admit I do sometimes take liberties and with my boyfriend. I give them an attitude or even end up arguing with them. I feel like my aunt when I react that way. She is kind and loving to strangers but to her family she is always very cold and nasty. Sometimes my grandma is the same way. But, I am trying to learn how to be consciously kind and to really treat my family and myself the way I would treat others. It is not always easy especially with family. Would I rather be happy or right? I like being right but not as the cost of my peace and serenity. I think for me being happy is a much better choice. Thanks for letting me share. Take what you like and leave the rest.

I finished reading act like a lady, think like a man. I found it to be very informative about how men think. The biggest message I got from it was if you want a man to respect you then you have to respect yourself and tell the guy what is acceptable and not acceptable way for you to be treated. He also hit on the fact that women are scared of sticking up for themselves out of fear they will lose the relationship or the guy won't like them anymore but if that's the case then he is not worth it anyway. I recently stuck up for myself. It was scary but I realized it was the right thing to do. Men want respect but so do women. If a man wants to be respected then he has to respect back. Relationships are not one sided it takes two to maintain the relationship. Also what Steve wrote about men being scared of commitment because that means they have to work hard at it and I understand that. Women think in happily ever after and relationships especially marriage is not easy. That was something he said in the book but I do think it is the truth. If you want a man to marry you set a date. I told my fiance the moment he get's home we are getting married. He already said that he would do it.