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ScorpioBliss 
10:29am, March 24, 2009
February !!!!! yiPPIEEEEEEEEEE 
I saw my first robin the other day which is a GREAT sign ! Seems a little early, but who cares... lol 
I finally spoke to Kevin about "our problems". I was sick to my stomach, but I knew it was something that had to be done. He sat silently as he listened to how unhappy I am with our relationship. I accept "him", but I don't accept how I'm treated in our relationship. I spoke my true feelings (which felt FANTASTIC) and put everything out there. I knew I was taking a risk of being told "if you don't like it, then get out" (since I've heard that so many times) but I was cool,calm and collected. He did not say anything about that, as I said, he was silent. I told him to think about everything I said, and if he was unable to give me what I NEED in a relationship, it was time for me to go. After 5 years, I deserve MUCH better than what I've been receiving, which is existence in a home with someone who I don't communicate with, show affection with, and who I'm constantly getting disrespected and belittled by. He knows I've changed and I'm not that little mouse in the corner too afraid to confront the cat anymore. He's made it very well known HE holds the high hand in this relationship (money wise) and that "someone has to wear the pants in the family" Well NO, that's NOT how it works. And that's NOT how I'm going to live anymore. I work 40 hours a week, too and I deserve better.
I'm now a strong, confident woman and I'm going to live my life as such. If he chooses not to be in it, then that's HIS problem, NOT mine.
I know I did the right thing for ME and it's about damn time !!!! The rest is up to him.
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Wow. I'm stunned. You've communicated what you need to sooo well. These are the kind of conversations I hope to get better at over time - ie, no anger, no defensiveness, just plain honest communication and not a victim in sight. That's the way to do it!
Georgiexxx
I am proud of you, and I did not expect anything less of you. It seems that the time is right for you to know if he is in your life for :-) a simple reason, for a longer season, or... for lifetime.
I hope that everything is going to settle the way it is best for you - for all of you.
Lisa
LisaSimpson
LeAnn!
I am soo proud of you!!! Even if things don't work out,you finally are your own woman. It has to be like a giant weight off your shoulders. The ball is in his court,let's see where he runs with it.
GOOD JOB! GIRLFRIEND,GOOD JOB!!
Your friend,
Susan
motherlesschild
Oh! and speaking about robins... I like to watch cardinals; it's so exciting to get to see one around, especially if we have snow - the contrast with their bright red feathers is so nice. We see them all through the winter here, just need patience...
LisaSimpson
Hi LeAnne,
You have grown so much since we first met and have become so strong. I'm glad you communicated your feelings and needs in a quiet confident manner. I hope he can change, but if he can't, I know you can make it on your own. I also hope he doesn't take this as just another threat figuring you can't make it on your own. You know you can't be like the boy who cried wolf too many times. I'm very proud of you and hoping all goes well and you get what you want. And also thanks for being there for me. I'm always here for you.
Hugs
Elaine
lanie516
Thank you all so much for standing beside me through all of this. I talk to you all on here more than I talk to my hometown friends. I really appreciate your insight and advice. You're a great group of friends and I respect and cherish our friendship :)
P.S. Lisa ... I'm an avid bird watcher :) I love watching the cardinals, although we have them here year round. They will start "courting" soon. Keep an eye out for the male feeding the female :):) It's really neat to watch !
Love to you all and thanks again, it means a lot to me !
ScorpioBliss
LeAnne,
that is great how openly and honestly you expressed yourself. Good for you! You deserve only the best. :)
hrsgirl74
scorp, good for you. xxxx
ghur4
LeAnne
You definitely deserve the best. I'm glad that you stood up for yourself. Hope you have a GREAT day.
elkoholics
TOUCHDOWN!!!!!!!! heck yea sweetheart. you or nobody deserves to be disrespected. i am soooooo proud of you hunybuns, now just keep trusting that you will know what to do whenever you need to do anything. Love ya.
biggoal
You go girl! Proud to be your friend!
ClaudiaD