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Open Parenting 'Tweens (9-12)

I am not a parent of a 9-12 year old but my mum recently married a guy who has a 9 year old daughter, and I am the one who has been left to raise her and teach her right from wrong as her real mom isn't around and my mum and her dad don't really know how to handle kids. She has already asked me about periods and babies and she recently asked me if she could shave her legs! So I have to be the role model for her which is hard as I have to hide my problems so they dont impact her.

Treatments

Patience Working / Worked

I have to have alot of patience with her as she is becoming a teenager and experiencing a change in behavior and stuff so I have to be patient as I know its just a stage in her development. Being a teenager myself makes it slightly easier as I went through the same thing nearly 8 years ago so I can still remember how it feels. She's just so curious! lol

Open Bereavement - Teens

I lost a very close friend in October 07 due to suicide.. I then lost a friend in November due to Cancer, another in November due to gang violence, then another in February 08 due to suicide, and then 3 more in a car accident in April and then one more in June from a coma.

Treatments

Keeping Busy Working / Worked

I tend to try and keep busy although sometimes I keep busy in unhealthy ways..

Music Working / Worked

I play the guitar and piano and listen to music when I feel upset..

Remembering Somewhat Helpful

I always go to visit them at their graves and talk to them.

Scrapbooking Somewhat Helpful

I make videos with pictures of my friends on post them on youtube.

Talking Somewhat Helpful

I talk to trustworthy people about missing my friends but no-one can ever make it better.

Time Somewhat Helpful

time is a great healer but i think about what I am missing now that they are gone..

Open Parenting Toddlers (1-3)

I have a little girl called Jade. She is 1 1/2 years old, 2 in December and she is my little ray of sunshine. She came into this world through an act of violence which was horrible for me but she is the best thing that could ever happen to me.. I always say.. how could something so beautiful come from something so horrible?

Treatments

Patience Working / Worked

I have to use alot of patience with Jade as she is entering her terrible twos and so its hard to get her to listen but overall shes a good kid.. She just doesn't like diapers and bed time!! lol

Play Therapy Working / Worked

I am always playing with her which makes us closer as I am still a teen myself and my boyfriend who isn't her biological dad plays for her and treats her like his own so she is very attached to him.

Positive Reinforcement Working / Worked

I am always praising her on everything good that she does and ignoring her when she does something bad so she knows the only way to get positive attention is by doing good things..

Open Pregnancy - Teens

I found that I was pregnant at the age of 14 years old and I was so scared as I didn't know who the dad was (long story) and I didn't know how to tell my parents- but mostly I didn't know how I was going to cope, but I couldn't go through with an abortion.. I am glad that I went through with the pregnancy though as I now have a gorgeous little girl called Jade who is nearly 2 years old and she is the best thing in my life.. I love her more than anything..

Treatments

Talking Working / Worked

When I found out I was pregnant I spent a lot of time talking to a woman at plan parenthood about my options and concerns and it really helped to make my mind up about keeping the baby and also about telling my parents.

Open Rape

When I was 14 years old I was raped by someone I didn't know, and then 2 months later I found out that I was pregnant.. it was the worst experience of my life but it gave me the best thin in my life also.. I hate the guy for doing this to me but the police didnt do anything because he said it was consequential and I was drunk at the time..

Treatments

Emotions Anonymous (EA) Considering

I am seriously considering this as I still have flash backs after all this time.

Psychotherapy Not Working

I tried it but I couldn't open up at all...

Rape Counseling Too Soon to Tell

I tried talking about it over the phone but I've only done it once..

Talking Not Working

I told the police about it but they said I consented to it and I was drunk so it was my own fault..

Open Eating Disorders
Type: Bulimia

Theres not much to tell.. I hated the way I looked and so I started to night eat at all except for maybe a meal at night IF im hungry.. now its more hectic than ever and if I feel like I've eaten too much I will make myself throw it up and take laxatives.

Open Bipolar Disorder

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