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dianerpah 
i read an email from my fabulous sassie friend this morning & she's helped me so much.
she told me she wishes i wasn't so hard on myself & that really made me think. i realised i expect perfection from myself, but make all sorts of allowances for others. if someone hurts my feelings, it's me being insecure & not thinking straight! someone hurts me & i wonder what i've done wrong! am i expecting too much? am i seeing something that isn't really there?
well, that's all got to change! i've dealt with the guilt, now i've got to stop blaming myself for everything! looking for where i've gone wrong! blimey, i do make things hard for myself, don't i. i suppose even more so when i'm not feeling well, but that's no excuse! feeling low, for whatever reason, just makes me dwell on the negative things. i remember past hurts etc & wonder why i'm still hurt by them. i think i know why now though...i haven't let myself blame other people for what they've done, but taken all the blame on myself.
recent hurts too. probably even more so. i have dealt with the traumas of the abuse etc....i just can't seem to understand when something hurts me now! if someone behaves selfishly towards me etc. i don't blame their selfishness, but my reaction to it! it's like i won't allow myself to see other peoples' faults. or think it's somehow wrong to acknowledge they have got faults! if something goes wrong, it's bound to be my fault!
cool! thanks so much, Sassie baby....you've got me away from not seeing the wood for the trees!
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Sassie sounds like a wonderful friend and am glad to hear she helped you to make a huge leap of Faith.
Faith in YOU! special lady
We can get stuck in our ways cant we. I still have to stop and think things over re my resposes to people or trigger for me from my childhood
Bless you and your new positive outlook!!
Jan777
Shalom [peace be with you],I am still dealing with past hurts,I no longer blame myself,I can see that I have been hurt by the evil and wicked ways of others,looking at my life I can see how stupid ,and simple ,loving ,accomodating I was,trying to make everybody happy,I made myself sin and miserable,following 'THE LORD AND HIS WORD'has made me realize how wrong I was and how I was used ,controlled,made to look as if I was wrong.Diane you need to forgive yourself ,and move on,look at the goodness and love in you,and don't let anybody tell you what to do,leave the past where it belong,we cannot change it ,but we learn to make the most of today and deal with problems in a positive way and leave the word 'worry' in the past.Have a blessed day ,love in 'CHRIST' forever Lucy.
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