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bcgradgirl 
11:45am Wednesday
I must say that I have been doing really well the past month or so. I think now that a significant amount of time has passed, I have made peace with this past pregnancy loss. I have been working on "me" a lot and I feel like its helping. I finally am getting back to myself and starting to enjoy life again. My only real issue lately seems to be my feelings of being left out. I have felt this way for a long time with my friends and family, being the only one that did not have a child yet. What has become tougher for me lately is feeling left out here on DS. I am so thrilled for all of my friends who have become pregnant and have had beautiful babies, but I am still on the sidelines and now feel left out here as well. I guess I am just thinking out loud...please do not take offense to this, I am so happy for each and every one of you that has gotten their precious miracles, I just wish I could be part of it with you all.
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I am so sorry honey.. I know coming from me there is probably not much I can say to make you feel better.. please don't feel bad. I have so totally been there and it is just no fun. I am ALWAYS here for you no matter what. I would give anything in the world to help you. Lots and lots of love coming your way!
Shanny2007
It is so wonderful that you are moving on in you life and making the most of everything. Working on you is so important. You are such a wonderful and courageous person; for all you have been through you've come out stronger.
I do understand how it feels when all of the friends you make (on DS) fall pregnant. For a while it seemed everyone whom I befriended got pregnant. I was very happy for them ( mean we all have the same goal and want it so much) but it was still hard not seeing my life change. I imagine in your case it is harder, but I know very soon you will have a child one way or another and you will be a stupendous mommy. When your child arrives you will have so much to celebrate.
HUGS.
suzannelin
Bless your heart.. I am so sorry for your struggles and wish you the best outcome possible. Glad that you are doing better... keep the faith!
MDB
I so know how you're feeling b/c I've been there. Please don't feel badly about the way you feel b/c it's so normal. It takes time for we women with IF issues to finally get pg ...for some of us it happens quickly while for others, it takes a bit or even much longer but I think (not positive) that everyone I know thru my Resolve groups have eventually become mommies and it will happen to you too. hugs
mich2
I know how you feel. One day we will get to join them. I just know it. I am happy that you are feeling better though. Take care of yourself. XOXOXO Jessica
PreciousChild
It's so easy to feel that way. I felt that way forever too. But you will get your chance and then someone else will feel left out and you will feel bad (just like I do and probably most of the other girls who are pregnant or moms already) for getting lucky after years of struggle. It's all part of the ugliness of IF. I am so glad that you are feeling better though and hoping that positive vibe hangs on for a long time. Where are you guys headed now with your path to parenthood? Still thinking about adoption or are you going to try some sort of ART again? XXX
auntieweewee
Hey there!! I know how you feel, I've been there for about 17 years now, & for me it hasn't gotten any better, I'm still not out of the woods yet!!! I have a 21 year old niece that I thought would have kids before me!!! You are not alone & I wish I could just hug you!! because I know what you are feeling & it ain't good, but know that one day it will happen for you!! You are young & strong & I know you will get there!!! HAng on sweetie!! How is the adoption process going???
bremon
I'm sorry you feel left out. I remember feeling that way too. I know it's so hard to keep seeing what you want yourself. Please don't give up, I really believe you will be a mother some day. I'm glad you have been feeling better. Please know I think of you often and I am always here for you!
Jen2279
Oh hun, I wish I could just swing on over & give you a hug, but we both know it isn't that easy to do. I am sorry you feel this way, you certainly are not alone in your feelings. Sadly this is just another horrible side effect of IF. But, I do have to say that you do seem much happier in general & I still believe that you & Jeff will be parents...even if it isn't the way you first thought. You both will be great parents & when that happens the feelings of being left out will be passed on to someone else. I love ya sweetie & like we have always said to one another ~ no matter what happens to either of us...we will always be friends!!!!! xxxxxx
dulcylee
I am sorry you are feeling this way. I wish there was something I could say that would make this easier. Don't give up. It will happen for you!
lvnikita
I am glad you are feeling a little better after the loss. I am sure it is a hard road to travel down. I understand what you mean by feeling alone, even here on DS. So many of my wonderful friends have moved on to have babies or are now pregnant. I am THRILLED for them, but left to wonder if I will ever join them. I guess all we can do is pray that we will and keep moving forward towards that goal. I try to use their achievement as inspiration and faith that it will happen for me too. You will get there too!
Lioness816
i feel ya! same thing for me...I want to be on the bfp train soooo badly! but i keep remembering that all these bfp girls were once or 17 times on the bfn train before this...and if we follow this dream to the end we'll be there too...I keep saying ...these ds girls give US hope...they were us!
Katy1969
i would feel the same way. every time i log on here it seems like someone else is pregnant. that cant be easy for you to hear. i know you're happy for everyone else but i know you want it for yourself. i forget where you are in your journey? considering adoption and donor embryo or surrogacy? maybe it's time to pursue one of those -whichever one it is. as long as you and dh feel ready.
suzypsz