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lyssie2 
8:11am, September 4, 2009
Thanks everyone for your support. You are an amazing group of women. I just wish that I could stop sounding like a broken record with this constant struggle of having a baby. Who thought something so simple for most, could be nearly impossible for others?!
I am actually doing really good. This forced wait is allowing me to not be stressed from trying and really just take a much needed short break after 2 years of failures. So on that hand, I'm doing really well.
On the other hand, it's allowed me to reflect and wonder if this is going to happen for us. Is all this going to end well? Realistically, not everyone gets to be a mother. At what point should I throw in the towel? Am I going to get a clear sign-like oh by the way you're never going to be able to conceive again- or am I going to have to make that decision myself. Just questions I've been pondering lately in my obsessive thoughts on this topic. I still can't imagine my life not trying. It's such a part of me, this desire to be a mother, I think it would break me if I stopped trying, but at some point, it's going to break me to keep having losses.
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You know my thoughts on this topic, of course, but ultimately it is up to you. I know how painful it is to keep having all these losses, but like you said, I do think it may be even more painful to stop. I would never want to push you if you don't want to be pushed, but in my heart I still believe that this is going to happen for you. SO, yes, it has been a bumpy (very bumpy) road, I know. If I could take the pain of that away, I would do it in a second. It breaks my heart that you are having to deal with any of this. I do know that you are such a strong person and I firmly believe that you can do this. I know it feels impossible right now, believe me, I understand, but there are way too many success stories out there. As simple as it sounds, remember, good things come to those who wait. My stance on this will always be the same. I can't let you give up (until you tell me to shut the heck up!)! I know in your heart you really don't want to. Last week, in my journal I said I felt like giving up, but really I just wanted reassurance that it will happen and it can happen. I don't know if that is how you are feeling, but I am here to give you that reassurance regardless. I want this for you so so badly. Remember, you are so so young and you do get pregnant easily. One of this is going to stick, I know it. I really feel like this break will help to rejuvenate you and after the hyst, you will feel ready to jump back on the wagon again. Remember, we had a pact! I am always here for you, but please don't give up!
djifoof
This has been such a long road for you and the fear of having more losses is completely reasonable after what you have been through. I would never want to tell you what to do, but I do believe that your time is coming. Maybe this break waiting for surgery is just what you need. My heart breaks reading this and reading the sorrow, loss, struggle and pain in your words. I hope that the answer comes to you...in the form of a BFP and healthy baby. We're all here for you. BIG HUGS
4EVERinLOVE
I completely understand your feelings right now. It would be extremely hard either way giving up or TTC. The wait is probably not only good on your physically but emotionally also. I continue to pray you get your healthy baby. Hugs Monica.
sweetangel
I would love to wave a magic wand and make this all better for you or wish I had some crystal ball that would give us the answer so I could tell you not to give up. It's not an easy decision and only one that you can make. I know people who struggled for years and years and it is not an easy road but in the end they were blessed with their little bundles. What you are feeling and thinking is completely normal. Taking a break may be a good thing I know I hated it when the dr's made me wait but in the end it was nice to have a few months off from "trying". Try to enjoy things you would not get to enjoy if you were pregnant that's what I did and it worked. Then when it was time to try again I felt more hopeful and rejuvenated. You know you always have my support whatever you decide. When is the surgery scheduled for?? Sending lots of love and prayers your way!!
angelh721
I know how you are feeling because I was feeling that way at some times when we were ttc....I couldn't understand why it was happening time after time and what I did wrong or what I was doing wrong or if I was not loving the children I had enough??? All those questions....so I know how you are feeling.
I do wish you all the best when you do start ttc again. The break might be good for you in the end. I hope all goes well with the procedure/surgery. I am thinking about you!
jsm16