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rose77 
11:44pm, October 2, 2009
This past week I don't know I kind of lost it I am having my downward emotion, but I think its because I am tying to get everything together. I got the papers to fill out for family court, and its hard to fill it our so you don't get screwed. and I have to seriously think about selling the house and getting that ready now, which my son is very upset about. The house is falling apart and I have to sell before its really bad. I can't afford to fix everything that needs to be done. Its just that everything is just piling on and its hard when its all at once. I wish I could be the one to not have a care in the world. Oh I know someday I can look back on this when it is all said and done, and it will have all fallen together where it should. I hope anyway and I hope it is soon.
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Hang in there. This is all pretty hard isn't it. The paper process is not only time cosuming but emotionally draining. I'm in the middle of it now and since we've used our retainers (each) working a little with the stbx to iron out at least what might have a shot of working before taking something to my lawyer. It's a lot.
I hope you are talking care of yourself physically and emotionally too. One thing with th house -- is to just have a realtor come in now and look at it. They'll give you an estimate as is and with repairs. If you own it jointly with husband then you'll both be responsible for either the repairs or to sell as is. A third option, depending on what you want, of course is to have it evaluated as is.. If this is something you want to keep as part of the settlement you can add in the price of commission and closing costs and deduct this from the current value. This is a more realistic estimate of it's value if you were to suggest on your end keeping it as part of the settlement. In on way is this easy whatever route you chose.
Sending you some hugs today. The future with less trauma will be here. I keep hearing this on DS from those on the other side of the tunnel. Hope your kids ae doing OK.
Cat79