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ChinookWife 
8:16pm, August 17, 2008
Not sure if i should have sent this and i am regretting clicking the send button now the damage is done. I was pissed off and frustrated and decided to send this to my husband. (Dont mind the link it's just some bullshit army stuff):
http://usmilitary. about. com/od/armypromotions/a/armywarrant_2. html
Thought that would be helpful Also you signed on today....read my message but simply chose not to answer my question that is once again not right. I'm pretty upset right now and don't really know what to say to you other than we really need to talk. I'm at my wits end with this marriage right now and if you don't talk to me soon then nothing is going to be fixed and i will be leaving as i told you in the previous email. Also we need to figure out what you're doing for mid tour. It's coming up in only a few months...like one and a half and i need to know if i have to save. Taking the dog to New York is going to be very expensive and i don't have anyone to watch him here. On top of everything you have been "pulling" lately i thought it would be nice to let you know since you really don't care what's going on in my life that i had my colonoscopy a week and a half ago and my surgery is going to be very soon. Not that you care but i figured you should know since you never ask nor talk to me. Back on the mid tour topic you're more than welcome to go to new york but know that you won't see the dog and i don't know if i'm going to be there or not. We need to fix things with us before i make any decisions. If you read this message and just simply don't reply like last time then i have my answer and i will get the divorce papers prepared. It's up to you...reply to me and try to work on things or the alternative. I have told you many times i want to work on things but you just simply don't seem to be getting it. I can't work on our relationship all by myself without you talking to me.
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Seems to me you love him - a lot. With all due respect, I remind you of what you already know: You are both going thru a particularily intense and tense time.
You are facing surgery, he's facing guns - and you are separated by miles. You need to be able to physically hug each other, and it can't be done.
Honey, just a suggestion - but "back off" a bit... ranting can't help, and it's a sure way to close the door to communication. Also, keep in mind that the majority of men are not great in the emotional communication dept. They'd like to be; they don't know how.
FYI - Your married, you want to be married to him (preferable under better circumstances) and I'm betting he wants to be married to you. That means that the "damage is NOT done." Married folks snap at each other from time to time. You can undo your message to him by send'n an up-beat, positive, loving message.
Relax, do something nice for yourself... Then, think about what brought the two of your together, and send your man a loving message.
LostLadyLen
I know you've been going through a lot, and I don't know many of the details. I don't want to sway your decision either way, but it seems like his mid tour would be a really good time to evaluate the relationship while you can both be together. I'd hate to see you do something final out of hurt feelings before you have a chance to see each other. It's natural to want to hurt him back since you feel so hurt by him. Like I said, I don't know all the details, so I don't know if any abuse is involved in the relationship or not. But if it's more about miscommunication and hurt feelings, there's a chance those things can be repaired and healed.
toddi
I think that it was a good idea to send this out. Communication is very important in a relationship and if both sides are not doing this its very difficult and hard to deal with. in my opinion people sometimes need tough love in order to bring them where they need to be if that makes sense.
shallowbay
oh sweety...i know you must be going through hell right now waiting to hear from him. this was a powerful letter...and if he doesn't respond, then i don't know what to think! you are so brave and strong to stand up for yourself like this. it's what you needed to say, and you said it. good for you honey. i know we don't seem to connect online often enough...but i really am here for you. i hope you can find some peace in having spoken from your heart. much love...
leahanne