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I think I've had that exact conversation with my DH. There are times I feel like we never "do" anything but then he'll go plan something -- only those plans usually include his friends, not me. He tells me that if I had more of my own friends, I wouldn't care what he did. It's irritating... I'm sorry you're having a rough time right now. (((hugs)))

I am so sorry. Please don't be embarrassed or feel you are alone with what you are going through right now. It is actually a very common issue in marriages and relationships. It does not mean it hurts any less though. You can talk about anything you need to in your journal, it does not have to be fertility related. Many women can relate, especially those going through IF treatments because IF puts a lot of strain and stress on even the best relationships. I hope you are able to work things out. Vent as much as you like to get it out. Writing in a home journal can help too, to get it out that is, but you don't get feedback or support there. I find doing both is helpful. You are in my thoughts.

I'm sorry you are going through this right now. As Lioness said, infertility puts a hefty strain on a relationship. The grass is always greener! Sometimes I pray that DH will want to go someplace without me! He planned a golf weekend with a group of his buddies later this month and he's already talking about not going. I would LOVE to have 5 minutes (or better yet two days) of alone time! I hope your DH comes around soon. And remember, this is a support group. We're here to support! No need for embarrassment here!

I have been down the go get your own friends convo..Men just don't get the need for us to be with them some time especially going through IF. I hope that your DH comes around and we are here for you

oh amy i am so sorry... i cannot imagine the hurt you must feel. i know we sometimes say things when we're angry, but my goodness, he really let loose! :( hang in there hun

I have similar feelings to you in that I have never been a "big girlfriend group" kind of person. I'm completely content in spending all my free time with my husband and I do consider him my best friend. I agree that he needs his space sometimes and I try to accomodate that. but he knows me enough to PLAN it ahead of time. Example - Friday nights are his night to hang out and play Halo with his friends. I try to respect that time, not complain, and plan other things for myself. But he also knows I EXPECT to have some dedicated time with him and that I jealously protect our Saturday's. It's taken some time and respect on both parts but he gets the space he needs and I get my needs met. And after all, I'm alone all day while he is at work so he knows I need his time and attention in the evenings a little. I'm sorry your hubby was so harsh. It sounds like he's ust feeling the pressure of life and kind of exploded on you. Certainly undeserved! I hope you two can work out a compromise to avoid those landmines in the future.

so sorry to hear that your having a hard time. The things he said would be hurtful, i understand.

wow that sounds identical to me and my husband. We've spent maybe a total of 7 at the most 10 days apart since we started dating. He also thinks that we shouldnt spend so much time together sometimes and sometimes goes on rampages like your husband did. So I know exactly what your going through. Hugs Monica.

Aw. I'm so sorry. I feel like my husband and I are kind of going through the same thing. Only I haven't had a saturday with him in God knows how long. He is usually working, but if he does ever get a Saturday off, he certainly doesn't spend it with me. He's either playing golf or working on his grass patches (cause its almost hunting season). But if I say anything, he acts like he's the victim. I just want to spend some time with him, but he says that he thinks it's healthy for us to do our own things. It's very frustrating. I hope you and your husband can talk about it, and maybe he can see your point of view a little better.