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michele1272 
I have been very confused about my boyfriend. We were engaged up until Last October and we were supposed to get married in November. In DEecember, we started seeing each other again, but I am fighting my time with him with his son. I know him being a father is more importantn than me, but I want to be number one in his life. I dont know how to let go. All my firends tell me to dump him, but I love him more than anything in the world. His problem is his son. He takes over his whole life necause his mother has nothiing to do with him. She acts like she doesnt even have a son.
Part of me thinks I ahould end things, but I alsmot died when he broke up with me. Im afraid i might hurt myself if I end things with him. EWhen we are together he makes me feel like the most important person in the world, but when we are apart, I feel alone and like he doesnt care. We are supposed to go out tomorrow night. He promised me a real date. That he will be in Daallas at 630 and take me to dinner and we can talk and have a real talk. I am afraid to be without him and I am afraid to stay with him him. all I do is cry.
I guess I will see if he blows me off again or not. He does that a lot because of his son and I am afraid he is gpoing to blow me off again. He promises he will be here tomorrow night, but I am afraid.
I also lost my job. I let my personal life take over and make me sick and then I miss work and lose a job, and I did it again. I have an interview tomorrow and I hope itr gos well because I am out of money.
My sister also thinks I need a change of scenery. She lives in Phoenix and she invited me to move out there and live with her and start a new life. I am thinking about it. I redid my resume and started sending it to law firms in Phoenix. I need help and advice. I want to know what to do.
There is nothing keeping me here in Dallas except my parents and one friend who has two kids. Maybe I should move. Staying for a guy who wont promise me a future is no reason to stay and he hasnt promised me any kind of futire. He thinks I deserve a better boyfriend than him since he has no time for me,but I love him. He is the first man I have truly ever really loved and I am afraid to live without him, but Iam afraid of what will happen yto me if I stay with him.
PLEASE HELP ME - GIVE ME SOME ADVICE. SHOULD I MOVE? TRY TO GET A NEW JOB HERE? WHAT?I DONT HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT TO DO?
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I completely understand how you feel when you say you would die without your boyfriend. I feel the same way about mines & although I know I shouldn't feel like that I do and can't help it.
I think that you should try to first work things out with your boyfriend. When you guys go on the date talk to him & ask him what is it that he wants out of this relationship. Try and do everything that you can possibly to make you guys work & he also has to be willing to do the same. It's impossible for a relationship to work out if only one person wants it to.
As with his son. He should be able tomake sometime for you. Maybe when his son goes to school or he can even ask one of his friends or get a baby sitter to watch his son so that he's able to spend time with you. If that isn't possible, I don't know how young his son is, but maybe all three of you guys can go out somewhere. I think the most important thing is you guys spending some type of time together as opposed to no time at all. That will be as start.
I feel that once you do everything that you feel you can possibly do to make you guys work & you still see no progress, then their's really nothing left that you can do. The only thing that would be left to do would be to stay with him & hope that he comes around. But that can be really stressfull.
Overall I think you should try your best to make things work and talk to him & see what he wants. Once you've done all that you can then I dont think their's nothing left.
I hope my advice is helpfull.
Prescious
Would it be at all possible to talk to him about trying to spend a little more time with you? Maybe he, you and his son could all spend some time togehter?
Person913