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purplefinch 
3:38pm, November 6, 2009
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About Me
purplefinch
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About Me
I have been separated for nearly 3 years from my stbx, and we have been in divorce mediation for a year. We have a 19-year-old daughter who goes to college in upstate NY. I thought we had a great marriage until the last few years when we were dealing with his depression and alcoholism. He moved out for "clarity" and now says he's happier and wants a divorce and wants to move on with his life. I still feel this shouldn't have had to end in divorce. I have just flown back to Massachusetts to explore starting a new life. Intense time.
I have been separated for nearly 3 years from my stbx, and we have been in divorce mediation for a year. We have a 19-year-old daughter who goes to college in upstate NY. I thought we had a great marriage until the last few years when we were dealing with his depression and alcoholism. He moved out for "clarity" and now says he's happier and wants a divorce and wants to move on with his life. I still feel this shouldn't have had to end in divorce. I have just flown back to Massachusetts to explore
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Interests
reading, meditation, Buddhism, traveling (especially to U.K., Paris), nature (especially birds), Celtic music, movies, crafts.
reading, meditation, Buddhism, traveling (especially to U.K., Paris), nature (especially birds), Celtic
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Recent Activity
Recently:
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4 hugs given, 4 journal comments, 4 hugs received
Monday
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purplefinch gave notyourmamalyn a hug 6:28pm
I have already had a few sharp pangs, and now I say, "Oh, that's the 'shrapnel.' " It actually…
Sunday
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purplefinch commented on jospring’s journal entry Sigh 6:27pm
I love your fighting spirit! A quick whine, and then you turn it right around! Wishing you tons of smiles--and…
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purplefinch gave Bert55 a hug 6:25pm
Great to get your hug! Sending back a big one, even though nowadays I have to send it 3000 miles! Thank…
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purplefinch gave notyourmamalyn a hug 6:15pm
Thank you so much for checking on me. I'm okay--not great, not terrible! Your hug meant a lot to me.…
Thursday
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purplefinch gave Bert55 a hug 2:11pm
I just went on DS briefly and had to send you a hug! (I also read your last journal and commented.) Go…
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Thanks
LOL I actually was going to make a metaphor out of cleaning the gutters and then thought others might find me going overbaord...LOL We think so much alike. I do find that there are such good people everywhere. The electrician was so very nice and helpful. He wrote me out lists of things to get and was just thoughtful...We really are blessed. It is so good to have a friend like you...
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Little Love
Oh I do adore you...Yes we all will carry those fragments the rest of our lives..But our battle scars can be worn with pride..We tried our best...Big hugs to you....
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Thank you for the comment on my journal..I do think we look at things so much the same way..I have found that I am trying to feel what I am feeling and then get rid of the negative feelings as soon as I can. This journey from divorce certainly does seem to just last for the longest time. I hope you are feeling better. Big hugs and love to you..Thank you so much for your friendship..
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Hug
Sending hugs! I've been away for awhile. I'm off to get caught up. I hope you are well.
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Hug
Wanted to check in and see if you were doing okay...Big hugs to you...
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Goals
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Support Groups
Close Breakups & Divorce
My husband of 18 years moved out 2 years ago. He now wants a divorce.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Not Working
- Forgiveness Not Working
- Leave Not Working
- Love Not Working
- Psychotherapy Somewhat Helpful
- Reading Not Working
- Talking Not Working
- Time Not Working
Close Hypothyroidism
I did not have symptoms, but a routine blood test a few years ago showed that I was hypothyroid. My levels have been stable for awhile. My doctor lowered what he considered my ideal level to be after talking with an endocrinologist friend. Recently my level went up to close to 3 and we are trying to fine-tune. This time I did feel the effects--fatigue, achy, feeling as if I need almost no food. I am in the middle of a divorce and think the stress is affecting levels and symptoms.
Treatments
- Synthroid Working / Worked
- Levothroid seems to have worked pretty well in terms of my lab tests, although recently the numbers have gone up.
Open Anxiety
Treatments
- Breathing Exercises Somewhat Helpful
- I am trying diaphragm breathing, not sure yet, but I like doing something that is not a medication.
- Meditation Working / Worked
- I have meditated for 30 years. I love it, not just for anxiety-reduction but because it has given new meaning to my life and through it I have met many wonderful, caring people.
- Paxil Somewhat Helpful
- Maybe worked slightly. However, tapering off was just terrible, and I would never go on the particular medication again for that reason. My anxiety during tapering was worse than any I had prior to going on it.
- St. John\'s Wort Working / Worked
Open Arthritis
Severe arthritis in left hip.
Treatments
- Acupressure Not Working
- I really wanted it to work, but it didn't do anything really noticeable. Interesting, though.
- Glucosamine/Chondroitin Not Working
- Can't tell. No side effects, so it seems worth continuing just in case.
- Lodine Not Working
- Didn't help much, so I stopped.
- Naproxen Not Working
- Didn't do much. I felt I was getting side effects, so I stopped.
- Surgery, Knee Replacement Considering
- They're now talking about hip replacement, which I don't feel ready for.
- Tylenol Not Working
- Doesn't do anything much.
