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Jleemurpa 
12:51am, July 23, 2009
I sometims think my oldest son Brad is my 'forgotten child.' By that I mean he is perhaps the easiest of the children to take care of. He doesn't need much motivation to do well in school. He isn't a discipline problem. He doesn't get caught up in all the boy/girl drama that can happen with an 11 year old. He's just a good child. My youngest son seldom stops talking, my step daughter yaks all the time too and my daughter always has to share her days with me while Brad just hangs out being quiet and good.
He is very close my my sister. She taught him how to cook and he does a decent job. There are nights he has made dinner for the family...nothing too complicated but it's good food done right. He is so anxious to babysit my one year old niece as a way to earn some money to buy things! At home he helps with the chores and his room for an 11 year old is usually clean and neat.
Yesterday just the two of us went to the store to get a few things for dinner. We talked about school and his friends. There is a girl he likes and he talks about how he misses her friendship since they don't go to the same school any longer. We talked about his piano and how good he has gotten and we talked about things he might want for Christmas.
It was after this short trip that I realized I need to have an alone day with him. An entire weekend day when just the two of us do what he wishes without any siblings hanging around. I remember one of my favorite memories of such a day with my mom was when just the two of us went to a concert alone. Just my mother and I went to see John Denver. I wasn't a huge Denver fan but I must have been seven or eight at the time and just all the excitment of going to an event like that was special.
Last year my husband took me to see the Trans Siberian Orchestra holiday concert. I thought Brad would enjoy all the light effects the show has as well as seeing the performers live. This morning I got Brad and I tickets to an afternoon concert in December that just the two of us will go to. It's in the Phoenix area so we will have an early morning drive, lunch at where ever he wishes to eat, the concert and then a few hours after to do what ever.
He doesn't know I did this yet and I'm not sure of the correct time to tell him. Maybe I will just get him in the car and start driving and surprise him once we get to the concert. I hope he remembers the day as a day filled with good memories. I love this oldest son of mine and so very proud of the young adult he is becoming.
He is very close my my sister. She taught him how to cook and he does a decent job. There are nights he has made dinner for the family...nothing too complicated but it's good food done right. He is so anxious to babysit my one year old niece as a way to earn some money to buy things! At home he helps with the chores and his room for an 11 year old is usually clean and neat.
Yesterday just the two of us went to the store to get a few things for dinner. We talked about school and his friends. There is a girl he likes and he talks about how he misses her friendship since they don't go to the same school any longer. We talked about his piano and how good he has gotten and we talked about things he might want for Christmas.
It was after this short trip that I realized I need to have an alone day with him. An entire weekend day when just the two of us do what he wishes without any siblings hanging around. I remember one of my favorite memories of such a day with my mom was when just the two of us went to a concert alone. Just my mother and I went to see John Denver. I wasn't a huge Denver fan but I must have been seven or eight at the time and just all the excitment of going to an event like that was special.
Last year my husband took me to see the Trans Siberian Orchestra holiday concert. I thought Brad would enjoy all the light effects the show has as well as seeing the performers live. This morning I got Brad and I tickets to an afternoon concert in December that just the two of us will go to. It's in the Phoenix area so we will have an early morning drive, lunch at where ever he wishes to eat, the concert and then a few hours after to do what ever.
He doesn't know I did this yet and I'm not sure of the correct time to tell him. Maybe I will just get him in the car and start driving and surprise him once we get to the concert. I hope he remembers the day as a day filled with good memories. I love this oldest son of mine and so very proud of the young adult he is becoming.
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It sounds as if you have brought him up right. Well done. Tom XXX
Tom999
I'm sure it will be a day he'll never forget. I'm hoping he'll be able to see it for what's it's worth; a bonding experience and display of how you feel about him. Way to go JayLee!
andrews