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Hello, Laura here from GA. I need advice quick. My son dated a girl, both are 17, then broke uo 3 or 4 weeks they got back together and she was pregnant! we were with her all through pregnancy and childbirth, her family has basically throwed her away she really has no one. Was coming everyeveening visiting all through pregnancy and after baby was born always had to be home by 10:00 pm I had no problem with that, but, she was her one night and baby. at 2 months had his first shots that day, while they were here he just screamed in pain fron shots and felt so bad, we get him calmed down and he falls asleep. well abouy 5 after 1000 her curfew, i asked her not to wake baby up he just went to sleep and needed to wake up on his on so maybe he would feel better. We all called her mom to let her know she would be late because we dindt want to wake baby yet. she decides to leave baby let him sleep and we take him home when he wakes up but mom and stepdad do not answer repeated phones calls so we could explain anyway she went on home and all doors were locked at her houes, they locked her out! knowing she had 2 month old baby, they locked her out! I took her in her and son still had relationship at this time taking care of baby together because there was possibility child was his. Wellll did a paternity test, was not my Sons! he we were all devastated because we wanted him to be ours so bad and really believed he was. well son took it pretty hard, they argued quite a bit so i decided she should move out only place she had left to go was dads or sisters which neither she is happy at they live good ways from the school here where she wanted to finish. I love both her and her baby so much i literaaly cry cause i miss em so bad I need to know if there is a way to have her back and make it work? My son is not to keen on the idea but i feel in my heart i she needs me and i need her she needs a family and a mother and i am glad to be both just don't know how to do it without possibbly losing son. I need advice on this really quick i have tried and tried to find the answers. I just feel like i need to be there for her. she is young mother has no one to teach her things she doesn't know about. I just need to know how to handle please advise quickly thank you Laura
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Well hey girl! Haven't heard from you in forever, but sounds like you're moving on and doing well for yourself, and you certainly deserve that. Ok......your dilema ......it's a tough one, but I gotta say......I side with you on this. I can understand how your son feels too, but......I would have a very hard time turning a girl away in this situation. If she had friends/family that could help her, sure, I'd agree with the son. But seeing as that's not the case.......I would'nt have the heart to turn her out either. Just try to explain it to your son.....maybe it wouldn't be a permanent situation anyway......maybe the grandparents will have a change of heart......it's gotta be hard to turn away your own child and grandchild like that........maybe they'll soften with time. But if not.......I completely understand........I feel like i'd be doing the exact same thing you are. Just reassure your son how much you love him, but as a human being, you just can't put this girl out. And even if he doesn't understand it right now, he will one day. I know his mom raised him right! :)
tracygarnet
you did get the part where he's not my sons right? but I still want to help her thank you for getting back so quick, tough decision
laurafox0
yes, i did get that part......thats why i said i could relate to how your son felt.......but the bottom line is.....there's a baby that doesn't seem to have alot of support and you're willing to help out which i think is great....sometimes family (at least in my case) aren't the people you're related to......but the ones who treat you that way....and besides, it may be that she just needs some help for a while to get on her feet......i'm sure she doesn't know much about having a child and how to care for it, and obviously, you do and I have no doubt you're very good at it!
tracygarnet
yea i was thining that too I just feel this strong need to be there for her i love her and that baby well he stole my heart from day one he is so precious! thank you for the good advice
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