September 13, 2008 10:45pm
Since our last fight, something's different in my relationship with my husband. He seems a little more patient and I feel humbled by the …
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Regarding your post about your friend having found her son who committed suicide, I tried to post on that message, but was not allowed to so I will answer your post about that here. Regarding your friend's having found her son dead: That's awful! Unfortunately, there aren't any magic words to say. Just being with your friend (if she wants company) would help. You don't have to say anything - in fact, trying to lift her pain with words at a time when she needs to experience the pain might seem cheap and more painful to her. Just being available to her and hugging her etc. helping her in any way she needs, would help. She may need to speak with someone from Compassionate Friends (who have lost loved ones) or another group of people who may have lost a family member to suicide. Hugs, Weakandfalling
I am so sorry about your friend. What makes you think your friend is slowly dying? Have you asked her/him about it?? Sometimes I think I'm slowly dying - I think I may have ALS. It really helps to have someone to talk to openly about it. Maybe your friend would like to talk to you about his/her feelings. Some people like to act like nothing is going on, but usually that kind of pretense hurts rather than helps (but, of course, it depends on the friend's wishes). Treasure your friend while you have her/him! Hugs, Weakandfalling
How lovely that you are so concerned for your friend. My only child, age 37, committed suicide a year ago and my best friend has been with me for 50 years and was his godmother. Let me tell you, she has been my rock. We would talk about him, shed tears, and then she would make me think about something else. Just let her know you want to be there for her--for ANYTHING she needs--be it to cry with her, go to lunch, take her some food, help her pack away his things, go to church with her--you get the idea. Never think it would not be welcome. What I found when Jamie died is that some people I thought would be there----were not.--And some distant relatives and acquaintances just "stepped up" and brought in food, mowed the lawn, did laundry, and continue now-a year later to keep in touch and I have become VERY close to them. Hugs to you! Judy
My story. It is too long to tell. I would need to write a book. All I know is at the present I have much anxiety. It has escalated into phobias. I cannot tolerate an MRI or CAT because of the enclosure. I won't get into an elevator or fly in a plane. I can't ride in a car unless I am driving. If I am driving and am at a stop light and there are many lanes of traffic blocking me in, sometimes I have an anxiety attack. I hate being this way.
I was diagnosed with MMDD, Major Medical Depressive Disorder. Currently I am not going to therapy or taking any medications for it. Nothing really seems to work.
I am at my wits end. For two years I have had vertigo and dizzy spells. The doctor said upon examination my eyes would try to "jerk back" and he ordered an MRI of my brain. It came back normal. I told him it all started when I went underwater in the pool two summers ago and my left ear hurt really bad and the world spun around and I couldn't stand up. I did some research and the only thing I can find that sounds like my symptoms is Menneires(sp?) Disease. I don't know, but I am miserable.
When I was turning 50 I had an ear test they told me I had a major loss of hearing of the high pitched sounds. I have adjusted to it, but it is frustrating to have to "read" my t.v. I have to get people to repeat things over and over and they hate it. I don't do this on purpose. Hearing aids are not covered by insurance. Being hard of hearing does not make me stupid, but I get treated that way because I can't understand what people are saying to me a lot of the time.
About five years ago or so I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. I take medicine for it but it doesn't seem to help anymore like it did at first. The doctor checks my levels every six months and says I am on the correct dosage, so it is something else. Only problem is, we don't know what that something else is.
When I was 20 years old a doctor told me my body made almost no IgA. He recommended some type of monthly injection which they gave me for two months. I felt great. Then we moved and the next doctor and subsequent doctors told me I didn't need it unless I was sick all the time. I know very little about this problem and maybe this group can enlighten me.
I want to know if this is the disease I have. My doctor has tested everything. I have had a brain scan. He says my eyes "jerk back" which shows something off but doesn't find out what. I have had this problem for two years now. I have vertigo and spells of dizzyness. I am tired of it. I have gained 40 pounds and don't want to do anything anymore.
I have had some panic attacks, but not very many. I think that is because I stay away from anything I am afraid of; air planes riding in a car I am not driving, MRI & CT scan machines, elevators, etc. I don't like being this way but no one has offered a solution except to "get over it" and do the things you are afraid of.
Is is possible to have PSTD at the age of 57 from a traumatic childhood?
I haven't always had phobias. I have acquired them in my adulthood. The older I get the more phobias I acquire. The first one I can remember is Panic Attack (this one started at age 10). Then came fear of bridges, then fear of flying, then fear of elevators, then fear of riding in a car I am not driving, then fear of violence. It is a miserable existence and I try to cover my phobias up but they are always with me inside.
Met my husband at 17, married him at 18, divorced him at 46, when I found out he had been living with a woman he knew for 18 years for six years, remarried him at 54. I am 57 now. What is wrong with me? Do I just like not being happy? He won't touch me, does not say nice things to me, gets angry with me over everything, puts me down often. How do I fix my life?
I was married for 28 1/2 years before I found out my husband was living with another woman for six years. He said he knew her at work for 18 years. We divorced for eight years and then remarried. Now he doesn't touch me or act loving to me or support me emotionally and I wonder why he married me again. We have been married almost three years now and I feel like we are roommates and ones that don't get along too well at that.
I have had a strange problem for two or three years now that the doctors can't answer. I get this feeling under my skin like a bad sunburn or electric shock or something. It mostly travels down my arms, but it also affects my legs and sometimes the trunk of my body. When it first began it was more of just a sensation. Now it gets stronger and is actually painful. No one has any idea what it is.
I have had tinnitus for over 10 years now. My hearing is bad, too. It sounds like a loud bunch of locusts in my ears all the time.
A friend of mine's son just hung himself this week and she is the one who found him! How do I help her? What can I possibly say? We haven't been in touch for several years, but our daughters are best friends.
