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vader 
10:03pm, February 10, 2009
why cant women truly have friends? I know that this is going to be a bit ornery,but havesnt anyone noticed that when a group of men go out(even to have a pizza) MEN HAVE FUN AND I AM JEALOUS! Why cant we? Why are us women always complaining and gossiping? Cant we have fun like men do? And the same thing goes for friendship.Hasnt anyone noticed that men can stay friends with one person for 30-to 40 years and some of us are lucky to even have a close friend.I had friends all of my life.It was the 1950s.I was going to Saint Annes and i met 3 girls.One of the girls her name was Eileen and we became like sisters.We were very close.But in the 1958...her father got transferred to South Carolina and this wasnt a good move for the family.They felt betrayed and in the 1950s there was a clannish atomosphere about outsiders in this town.I saw Eileen in 1958 and we wrote.Then I saw her again in 1968....that was the last time...until I got a letter in 1978......she explained that she was married now and had children and that was the last time I heard.I was so hurt.But i learned a hard lesson.And the lesson is this...people dont keep in touch with others like they used to and it is good to have friends...but friends can grow apart and when this happens...it is better not to pursue it.I cant pursue it.I dont know where she is and ever since Brad died....I am busy doing other things...but hanging out with the girls like I used to when I was 30 does not appeal to me and I do all of my shopping including the food alone.I did go shopping one day when Brad was alive...we were out all day and it was a waste of time for me because not on ly did she not discuss what i wanted to talk about...she just quit talking at the end of the day and it ended in silence.
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Oh Vader, I truly think you haven't met the "right" friend yet. My best friend I have had for 54 yrs,...truly. She has been with me in all the highs and lows of my life, always, She stood beside me at the alter when I married, was my son's godmother, wept with me when he cried. The other side of the coin is whenever we get together for lunch,..it lasts 2-3 hrs, and laugh,...we have such fun together. It is like ying and yang. We can be very serious, shed a couple of tears and then laugh our way to more tears. I know I am blessed with her, and I hope you find someone like that. Perhaps in a church group, or some common interest?? Like your love of your cats? I pray you find someone to share your interests, it makes all the difference in the world. God Bless you, Love, Judy
JudyWI
Honey, women can have women friends. You just have not met your match yet. I have only had a handful in my life, but once you find one, you have a treasure for life. Do not give up. I hope you can keep looking, and find someone that can be your true friend. I do admitt that my husband,James is my very best friend and has been our 21 years of being married and for 8 years when friends was all we were.(well we fell in love somewherre in there.) Love,Peggy
grndmudder
to everyone .Thanks again and it is still hard for me to meet people.
vader