badwolf75's Journal

Someone...PLEASE HELP ME/US!!!!!!!

  I am a 32 yr. old male that (since early last fall) has completely swapped roles with my wife and am now a stay at home husband and father to our 2 yr. old son.  Due to the failing economy I was forced to close down the small buisness that I owned and my wife was able to get back to full time work putting in 40(+) hours a week.  It has been a very rough transition that is still hitting us/our marriage very hard and causing all sorts of problems. The worst one is: Because she is so overloaded and stressed from work (as a realtor in this horrible market) she has been and still is pushing myself and somewhat our son away because she needs more and more personnal space to recharge from a still growing demand on her from work.  She says that she does'nt feel that I am being supportive enough in what she is doing but, yet, when I try to step up the support another notch or 2 she gets upset and irritated and says that I am smothering her and not giving her enough space.  What am I to do? I am so confused and scared half to death!  I am trying soooo hard to give this amazing and incredible woman what she is telling me she needs but, get grilled (so to speak, or pushed further away) by doing so!   Please!, Someone help me/us.  My wife and son are my whole world and we are better than this but, cant seem to figure out how to get out of this destructive and devastating rut.  Please dont be quick to judge me as  lazy, I am and have been looking for ANY work since November but, we live in a small community up in the hills of California where there is not much work and the only work is too far to commute to (with current fuel prices) for the petty wages being offered.  I could be working but, after we sat and went over the numbers, the few job offers I had would have actually had us spending more a month on gas to commute than my paychecks would have been after taxes.I am new on this site and don't know where else to turn.  I can also be reached directly at bad_wolf_75@yahoo.com   I will take all of the help and friends and ears (so to speak) that I can get.  All of this is the tip of the ice berg, I havent even gotten into the details of the rest of the marital problems.