It's a month today my mom died
April 9, 2008 6:46pm
And it's a hell day. Thankfully my wonderful chiropractor can see me tonight, as I need the tension release so bad it's not …
LaRubia 
5:03pm, November 10, 2009
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About Me
LaRubia
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About Me
I'm here to get support from my mom's passing on March 8 - We were estranged (she had severe depression and social anxiety, and expected me to "fix" her for many years) - My life has been turned upside down the last 3 months: Was laid off from a 5-year job in January; started a new, but "contract" job late February, and then my mom passed unexpectedly on March 8 - suddenly, most of my friends have disappeared, and I have very little support - Parents live in southern Oregon in a small town, and my aunt (mom's older sister) and cousin (who thinks I'm evil because I stopped speaking to my mom and is completely "enmeshed" with hers), are not exactly supportive. My brother just doesn't want to deal at all. So I'm happy to find new, supportive friends to help me grieve this loss.
I'm here to get support from my mom's passing on March 8 - We were estranged (she had severe depression and social anxiety, and expected me to "fix" her for many years) - My life has been turned upside down the last 3 months: Was laid off from a 5-year job in January; started a new, but "contract" job late February, and then my mom passed unexpectedly on March 8 - suddenly, most of my friends have disappeared, and I have very little support - Parents live in southern Oregon in a small town, and my
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Salsa dancing, BBC America dramas, dining out (harder now with limited $$), just being a City girl, and trying to make my way thru this "rough patch" (as the English would say)
Salsa dancing, BBC America dramas, dining out (harder now with limited $$), just being a City girl, and
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November 10
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LaRubia commented on esther09’s journal entry Where I am now-a laundry list 5:39pm
Ohh, Girlie, I so can relate! I'm 43 and back on the market again, and it's brutal! I'd love to correspond…
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Single again; trying to date, frustrating!…
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The "numb" hours
April 4, 2008 1:27pm
It's Friday, April 4th, 10:10am, Pacific Standard Time. The attorneys I work for are all (except for a few) at a retreat in Arizona, …
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Hey Rubia, Thanks for your comments...it is hard to be mom-less even though technically I have one. If I called her, I would get a list of all the bad things I have done since age 16, LOL! Seriously, I am not a bad person, she just has a way of making me feel like one.
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Thanks so much for your words of support regarding my post on MD. It's been quite a ride - I pray alot. Fate seems to be handing me alot at once but I am blessed in many ways, including friends like you. Love, Nancy
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I'm so happy to see your news! Gosh it gives me hope where I have very little. Best wishes to you :)
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Hey girl...Haven't heard from you in a while, just wanted to say hi and see how you are doing.... ((((Hugs)))) Melissa
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Thank you for your story about your Mother and gardening. I am so sorry about your Dad. I hope things will be better for you as time goes by. Is there a grief support group in your town that you could join? I see your Mother died on 3/08/07 and mine died on 3/12/07. I am glad March is almost gone. My mother's birthday is April Fool's and she always got so many cards and calls. I will be thinking about you and saying a prayer. Hugs and blessings...
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Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a ParentMy mom passed on March 8, 2008, and it's been so hard - we were estranged, and it's hard to come to terms with the thought we'll never speak again. She had extreme depression and social anxiety and never got the therapy she needed - she just wanted me to "fix" her.
Treatments
- Crying Working / Worked
- Every day, a little bit heals me.
- Grief Counseling Working / Worked
- Met a wonderful "auntie"-type from a grief group - she's become my new best friend!
- Keeping Busy Working / Worked
- Trying hard to get back to full-time work.
- Prayer Working / Worked
- I'm not a true "religious" person, but I'm praying every day, and it's helping.
- Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful
- Most of my friends have just disappeared, and it hurts.
- Support Groups Working / Worked
- The "Motherless Daughters" group on this site has really helped.
- Talking Working / Worked
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