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Meekacat 
7:52pm, November 8, 2009
My daughter's husband is a true a**hole. He has not complied with the court signed settlement of assets, does not exercise his visitation rights with his son (he's seen him 4 times since March) didn't even show up for the final hearing, AND lied and said he was a student to get the minimum child support obligation of $63.00 a month. The state has had to garnish his monthly Army Reserve check to even get the $63.00. Her ex, Ty has sent me messages on my phone calling me names I would not even type here because they are so nasty. He even called me the "C" word because My ex, Stacia's dad, stepped in and got an attorney for her divorce and we got her primary custody of her son. I came from Idaho to give her my car to use because he took her car and all of their stuff of any value from their storage shed (china etc. from when they got married and there was no room in the apt). Some of you have read this crap before in my journal. Well, He's NEVER GIVEN her the stuff she was awarded in their divorce 3 months ago. He says he'll do it when he wants to and it is convenient for him. So she has never gotten her car back. I sent him a message last week telling him to return her stuff or I would take him back to court. He sent me a message starting with "LOL, oh you really scare me you stupid *&^*@*)! Go ahead spend your money in court...you could buy all of this stuff again and another car, and I'll still be laughing at you ***&&^%! I can't even tell you the things he said. He was supposed to have Tristen this past weekend. Thursday night he messaged Stacia and told her to have me quit sending him messages AND he had to work out of town (student?) and wouldn't be getting Tristen (nothing new), he has 1st and third weekend and NEVER gets him. Well Stacia found out yesterday that he was hunting this past weekend. He had a shell that didn't fire, he discharged it from the chamber, waiting 5 minutes and then picked it up (stupid, this was a live round, like a grenade with a pulled pin), then it picked it up. . .it exploded and blew three of his fingers off. He was flown to Spokane for surgery, is in the hospital and has a thumb and small finger on his one had with multiple skin grafts. KARMA?
I'm sure he be discharged from the Army now, which sucks, he was going to be deployed in 6 months...and I'm also sure there will be NO child support now, He told Stacia he was going to apply for diability. But, I will be able to financially help Stacia now that I will get SS.
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UGGH..divorce is ugly..all I can say,is glad you got your SSDi,and things will be turning for the better soon
dancingd
That is Karma!! She should be able to get some money for child support from his disibility. OMG. Wow!!!
Jollyk1
uhm actually child support enforcement and the IRS are the only ones who can garnish a disability check so if he thinks that by getting it he'll be excused from paying he's got another things coming. Also if he happens to get SSD then Stacia can apply for a check for tristan based on her ex's ssd with or without his consent :) and no matter that Tristan doesn't live with his father. My son lives with his grandparents and has for 7 yrs and he gets a check based on My SSD. he got a back check too when he first got his check. so thats something to keep in mind for later. good luck to you hun. (try not to grin too much i know how hard it can be :p lol)
Leanora
oh and even if he's gettin ssd and tristan is getting a check he can STILL be made to pay child support and his check be garnished for it ::grins::
Leanora
The best revenge is a life lived well. Time to move on, there is no need to communicate with this person unless by letter (very handy to have copies filed) and if that doesn't work via another party (social worker or someone from social services). Stacia, Tristan and you need peace and stability so you can build a new future together. If this fellow doesn't wish to contact his son, this is his loss and possessions are transient things. Wishing you well Sandra...love, light and peace
earthwalker
Yes KARMA What goes around, comes around. I agree, you would be much more at peace with no contact with the CREEP. You just dont need the added stress. Concentrate on getting well again and relax.
diannelyn
i have always heard that 'what goes around, comes around'... hugzzz
ducktape
Yes, Karma! But you didn't really think he's honor any commitments, did you? She'd just as well learn to do without him in her life but I'd certainly go back to court someday to take away his parental rights. Why should his child be exposed to anyone as unworthy as him?
andrews
Wow! I wouldn't wish losing fingers on anyone. However, I think you hit the nail on the head when you said it was Karma. This guy's a piece of work and needs some humbling.
Max630
I believe Leanora is correct.
jenmcd2
Instant Karma happens sometimes.......you never know. But it has also hurt you financially...maybe it will bring a different perspective on life into his heart...hopefully.
I have an idea. Keep any verbally abusive messages on your machine. Call the cops. He is breaking the law. He has also technically "stolen" her car - Stacey has the court documentation to prove it's hers. Car theft?
Keep up those visualizations. (Hope you didn't visualize him getting exploded!!! lol)
Blessings,
Sally
windymustang
haha to him, asshole, excuse my language. Her son or daughter is better off with out him. Wonderful news about your ss. God not Karma. God will punish you, watch out!!
emeila
As the od saying goes "what goes around comes around"
jinkx50
Wow, this is a terrible story all the way around! I know sometimes we wish for something terrible to happen to someone, and if it does, we get no pleasure out of it afterall. Maybe this will make him a better person, thats all I can think of, from it.
proudmary
wow! he sounds not like a nice man, why would you guys want tristen to see him anyway, he sounds like a evil guy!i wouldn't want him near kids, bur he should pay child support, thats sad what happen to him
lopeznewmexico
what a freaking piece of work!!! wow, you got your hands full. serves him right eh?!?!?
squeaker87
What a deadbeat! i'm sorry your daughter has to go through this. but I do believe in karma. I'm so happy you are getting your money!!
NJgrl
IS HE ACTUALLY DISCHARGED YET? IF YOU BOTH COULD GET AHOLD OF HIS COMMANDING OFFICER HE WOULD GET IN SERIOUS TROUBLE. I KNOW THIS FOR A FACT BECAUSE IT HAPPENED TO SOMEONE I KNOW VERY WELL. IF YOU COULD BORROW OR BUY A SMALL TAPE RECORDER AND RECORD WHAT HE SAYS HE BE IN DEEP YOU KNOW BECAUSE THE SERVICE FROWNS ON THIS KIND OF STUFF. GET TO HIS COMMANDING OFFICER AND TELL HIM WHAT'S GOING ON AND YOU HAVE THE COURT PAPERS TO PROVE IT. THE SERVICE DOES NOT GO FOR THE WAY HE'S TREATING YOU AND THEY'LL THROW HIM IN THE BRIGG AND THROW THE KEY AWAY. ALSO SOMETHING ELSE I KNOW THAT WORKS AND USED TO BE FOOL PROOF - IF YOUR DAUGHTER AN HIM GO TO COURT AGAIN TELL YOUR DAUGHTER TO DRESS IN HOLEY WORN CLOTHES AND DRESS THE BABY THE SAME WAY - YOU TOO GRANDMA. I HAD ANOTHER FRIEND THAT WENT TO COURT FOR ADDITIONAL CHILD SUPPORT BECAUSE SHE WORKED IN A RESORT AND HER EX HAD A CONSTRUCTION BUSINESS AND WAS LIVING HIGH OFF THE HOG AND WAS ACTING THE SAME WAY THAT BUM WITH HALF A HAND IS ACTING RIGHT NOW. MY FRIEND WAS DRESSED IN A SKIRT, VEST, AND JACKET TO MATCH MADE OUT OF POLYESTER AND IT WAS GIVEN TO HER AND SHE WORE IT TO WORK BUT ALSO WORE IT TO COURT THAT DAY. WHEN HER BUMB HUSBAND CAME IN HE HAD HOLEY RAGGED CLOTHES ON AND AFTER THEY CALLED COURT TO ORDER THE JUDGE LOOKED AT HIM THEN HER READ THE CASE DOCUMENTS AND TOLD HER SHE LOOKED BETTER OFF MONEY-WISE THAN HE DID BECAUSE HE WAS WEARING WORN OUT CLOTHES AND SHE WAS DRESSED LIKE SHE WAS BETTER OFF THAN SHE WAS. HE WON OF COURSE AND WENT HOME DRIVING HIS BRAND NEW CADDY THAT HE PARKED SEVERAL BLOCKS AWAY. HE WAS LIVING IN A BRAND NEW HOUSE WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND, WAS CICILLIAN, MY FRIEND HAD THE FIRST HOUSE WHICH WAS FALLING APART AND SHE COULDN'T AFFORD TO KEEP UP WITH THE REPAIRS. BELIEVE ME EACH WAY I DESCRIBED OF GETTING MORE SUPPORT WORKS. HE'LL GET IN DEFINATE TROUBLE WITH THE SERVICE BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT ONE OF THEIRS TREATING ESPECIALLY THEIR FAMILY LIKE THAT. OUR SERVICEMAN ARE REPRESENTATIVES OF OUR COUNTRY AND THEY ARE SUPPOSSED BE RESPECTFUL TO PEOPLE NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE. THEY HAVE TO TREAT EVERYONE WITH RESPECT BECAUSE PEOPLE USE THEIR ACTIONS AND FIGURE THAT IF THIS SOLDIER IS RESPECTFULL AND HELPS THEM THAN THE USA IS THE BEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD. MY FAVORITE SAYING IS "what goes around comes around" BUT SOMETIMES IT NEEDS A LITTLE PUSH. BOTH OF THESE METHODS I KNOW WORK AND IT'S ABOUT TIME YOU STOPPED LISTENING TO THIS SHITHEAD AND DID SOMETHING ABOUT IT. NO DISRESPECT USING THAT WORD BUT I CALL THEM AS I SEE THEM. TIME HE GOT TROMPED ON NOT YOU GUYS. REMEMBER I'M HERE AND I'LL READ THE REST OF YOUR JOURNAL ENTRIES IF YOU PROMISE TO REST AND GET BETTER. DON'T LET THIS CREEP GET YOU OR YOUR DAUGHTER SICK OR UPSET BECAUSE HE'LL BE IN HEAVEN KNOWING THAT AND IF YOU DON'T WANT ANYONE TO BE HAPPY WITH HOW THINGS ARE GOING THEN YOU HAVE TO KEEP HIM UNHAPPY. START TURING THE WHEEL IN YOUR FAVOR AND TRY THINKING LIKE HE THINKS BECAUSE HE'S YOUR ENEMY. LOL GALED
galed7956
oh what a pig..... hope it makes him reflect on his idiotic ways...... hope it makes him intensely miserable too......
rubyblue
Being a single mom of a 12-yr old for the past 11 years has certainly had it's disappointments and financial woes. In fact, if it weren't for my elderly mother and a small inheritance when my father died, my daughter and I would likely be out on the streets. I have worked since I was 13 years old but of course, with rent, gas, electricity (horrendous costs this year), the money just doesn't go far. The hubby lives across town and is on permanent disability due to an on-the-job injury involving his spine. I get $60/mo child support and $110/mo SSI. It's not enough to live on for a month so of course, I worked. However, I knew long ago that the hubby had to go as he was bringing me down. He never held a job for long and wasn't good at paying bills, although he did contribute when he was working. However, long before he got hurt he threatened to take himself and my then 5 month old daughter and live in the woods if I didn't give him equal time to the demands of the newly arrived baby. I remember that moment as being the ultimate discerning moment when I knew I no longer wanted to be with him. How stupid to try to come between a mother's love for her child. I soon saw that there was a conflict in my husband's way of thinking-the baby requires, demands and gets more attention from his wife than he does. So, he starts acting up, too:demanding, staying out all night when he doesn't get what he wants, when he wants it. Blah, blah, blah. does he ever stop to think hos stressed and emotionally overwrought the wife if with her new responsibilities as a mom? Some men are so clueless that they simply need to go back home to mommy. Unfortunately, mommy doesn't want the little brat back either. Tell your daughter to cut the man lose, get on with her education and have the best life possible with her baby. men come and go and you can't force people to love or do right by you. Keep up on the legal end of things and don't be surprised if the bf does a disappearing act. He's been sneaky and under-handed and no good will come of that. Is he the kind of person you want your child to grow up around. Or his family, or friends, etc. Be glad he's gone and don't let him back to see you or "his child" until he starts to cough up some responsible values and financial help. Period.
Cybercatxq
Well I don't know if he will be discharged because of that. They could just find him another job. He'll have to meet a medical board I'm guessing. Kind of like what I'm doing now. Again, I'm not sure, the Army's procedures are a bit different than ours.
QuackedUp
Blew his fingers off? Tood bad he didn't put it in his POCKET first, THAT would be PERFECT. But yes, I do believe in Karma. If he doesn't get his due THIS time around he'll get it later on. The Universe demands balance.
BTW; if you're not keeping a recording of everything he says to you or emails or texts, you should. Great evidence in court. And his attorney won't be able to rebut any of it.
And people wonder why I'm single and live with my CATS.....
ALC67