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Tob 
Hello all, I am new to this group, thank you for 'listening'
I am here because I have a son who is an addict. His age; 25. His poison; crack cocaine.
He has been addicted for about five years now, I found out about it less than four years ago.
In that time, our family has been through all the extremes in our ongoing effort to help this kid. He has run the gamut, break and enter, theft, disappearing for days at a time, about the only thing he has avoided is a criminal record (those of us affected have chosen not to press charges)
He was accepted into a re-hab program (second one) but got turned away yesterday because he tested positive for drugs. The rule at this facility is you have to be clean for two weeks, and they test you at the door. We are at our wits end with him. He claims to want to stop using, but keeps on doing it. I have lost trust in him, everything he says must be doubted. I have tried and tried nothing so far has worked or helped for long. He has let me control his money, since having money in his hand is definitely a trigger, but he either finds a way to get the drugs on credit, or comes up with a credible story, or he outright loses it and all but takes the money from us, one way or the other he finds a way. If you could find a way to harness the energy he puts into finding drugs, you could power a small household. I am looking for suggestions.
Thanks.
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Dear Tob, I could tell you to do every thing you can, give hime what he want's and give him a place to stay because he's your son and your responsability, but that is not what i will tell you . For one only you can decide what is best for you and your familey and all you have been through with his drug use and lost, But he also has to do the same thing only he can deside when enough is enough and thats when thay hit botte. Some times you can help them along the way and that is to just say I LOVE YOU SON AND I'M HERE FOR YOU I'LL HELP YOU THROUGH THIS AND BE THERE TO LISTEN, BUT IF YOU DESIDE TO LOVE DRUGS MORE THAN YOUR SELF THAN I HAVE TO SAY NO MORE HELP WILL I GIVE YOU I WILL NOT BE A PART OF KILLING YOUR SELF AND ALL FAMILY SHOULD DO THE SAME IF THAY TRULY LOVE HIM GET TOGETHER AS A FAMILY AND DO A INTERVINTION THAT IS THE ONLY THING THAT WILL SAVE HIS LIFE AND GIVE YOU THE PEASE OF MIND YOU NEED.AND YOUR SON BACK. I WILL PRAY FOR YOU AND HIM.
tryingtocopealone
Hi Tob,
I see that you live in B.C. I live in Vancouver. I know that the rehab program at Wagner Hills Farm, in Langley, has a high success rate. They call it a "Christian Healing Community". I think the guys have to commit to a 6 mo. - 1 yr. stay. I work with folks with mental health issues, and I take 9 of them out to Wagner Hills Farm every Tuesday, to do some horticultural therapy. The guys at the farm seem very happy and hopeful. I'm sure you can get more info from the internet. I hope this might help your son and your family. God Bless you and yours.
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